Emotional Intelligence is a whole set of emotional abilities ; it is the ability to manage emotions, a predisposition to express them, an ability to understand them, and even to change them.
The good news is that theOne can develop Emotional Intelligence throughout one's life, which obviously is only possible in the realm of emotions, not in the realm of the intellect.
Emotional Intelligence, what does it bring?
Among others, to have developed Emotional Intelligence is to build healthy bonds with others, and understand the emotions of these.
On the other hand, people with intelligence in the emotional field are more likely to succeed in their professional lives. Indeed, surveys have shown that most of those who succeed have this characteristic.
How to develop Emotional Intelligence?
If you want to develop your Emotional Intelligence, then you need to consider some elements. As we said above, Emotional Intelligence is a set of emotional abilities. If you do not have them, it is possible to develop them:
• Stay calm, do not put pressure on yourself. Many people suffer from great stress. It all depends on how one manages stressful situations in everyday life: the ideal is to be reactive and assertive, to find an inner balance and not to be overwhelmed by emotions .
If most of the time you are upset, nervous or anxious, then maybe it's time to act. You can start to play sports, or practice an artistic or enjoyable activity that can help you achieve emotional stability and maintain it.
However, if you are particularly disturbed, the best thing to do is to consult a psychotherapist.
• Accept negative emotions and deal with them. It is very important to learn how to develop the ability to deal with negative emotions effectively, so as not to be affected by our own judgment.
But, how to get there? The first thing to change is our way of approaching situations and thinking about them.
• Know how to read the signals sent by others. It is a social capacity to be able to accurately perceive and interpret the expressions of others, be they verbal, physical or emotional.
So it comes down to not misinterpreting the words of those around us, which would certainly give rise to misunderstandings.
If one does not understand someone's reaction, the best thing to do is to try to understand before drawing too hasty conclusions, judging or accusing.
It is also advisable to interact with each other to better understand his reaction.
• Expressing your inner emotions in the relationships you have with others. If you want to maintain close and lasting relationships with others, it is important to learn how to express your emotions effectively: love, tenderness, respect, etc. Unfortunately, there are many who do not manage to express this type of emotions, even if deep within them, they are alive.
This emotional incapacity can create conflict because loving, accepting and valuing the other is good, but saying it and letting it know is better.
If the other opens, then we must open too. It is not a question of saying only "good things", but it is undeniable that expressing oneself or exchanging one's inner emotions with the other can nourish and reinforce the bonds one has. created with him.
• Express complex emotions when necessary. Assertion is an ability that allows us to openly express what is important to us, to have a clear view of things, to set limits in our relationships and to let others know what is right. that we can accept (or not).
To be assertive, therefore, is to have the right not to agree with the other in certain circumstances, without being unpleasant; it's knowing what our priorities are and being able to say "no" without feeling guilty.
The time when emotions were considered how a process of "second order" and less important than other human abilities such as reason and logic, is over. Recent surveys show that the emotional sphere plays a determining role in our lives.
We know today that it is not the intelligence (the one that corresponds to the traditional concept of intelligence quotient) that will allow us to lead a fulfilling life.
What good is it to be intellectually brilliant if you are not emotionally? Most of the problems that can be encountered in life are due to our emotional disabilities.
Emotional Intelligence, on the other hand, multiplies our chances to flourish (be it on a personal or social level) and, finally, to have access to Happiness.