Talking to strangers can sometimes make us feel much freer than conversations with our family or lifelong friends. The reason could be that astranger sees us as we are, free from idealizations and self-deception. He does not see us as he wants to believe we are. It is therefore very liberating to interact with them and to be able to express ourselves.
Canadian researcher John Helliwell says there is no better situation than talking to strangers because it increases happiness levels.Talking to strangers makes us feel better about ourselves insofar as we consider this action as a sign of humility and kindness.
We listened to the phrase "do not talk to strangers" since we were young. It makes sense until we are old enough. This advice has been given above all to avoid certain dangers. However, according to a study published in theJournal of the Mental Environment, engage in a conversation with a stranger produces a feeling similar towelfare.
Another study published inPsychological Science indicates thatchildren, from the age of three, could distinguish for themselves whether the people approaching them are trustworthy or if they should move away from it. They could do it with the same precision as adults from the age of seven.
As we see,interacting with strangers has beneficial psychological effects. Effects different from those we get when we talk to people who belong to our social circle. Deepen.
"Justice lies in impartiality, and only outsiders can be impartial."-George Bernard Shaw-
Talking to strangers makes us more productive
Sheen S. Levine, a professor at Singapore Management University, points out that what often gives companies their competitive advantage is not just their accumulation of knowledge, but the use of performative links. In other words,spontaneous communication between colleagues who do not know each other in whichesknowledgeKeywordsare transferredwithout anyone waiting for anything in return.
For Elizabeth Dunn, a psychologist at the University of British Columbia, speaking with strangers increases our subjective well-being and has a direct impact on our productivity. Talking to strangers and being listened to helps strengthen our identity.It allows us to feel that we can bring something, that we are taken into account and valued.
"All things will be produced in greater quantity and quality, and more easily, when every man will work on one occupation, according to his natural gifts, and at the right time, without interfering in anything else."-Plato-
We prefer to talk to strangers because they do not expect anything from us
We will sometimes prefer to talk to strangers because they see us as we are, not as they want to believe we are. Talking with people with whom you have a personal connection positively influences our mood if the relationship is healthy. It does seem, however, that we better control anger and / or discomfort when we talk to strangers.
Most of us act in two ways when we are in a bad mood. We exhale our anger with the people around us because we know we can do it and where the limit is. On the other hand, we tend to be more friendly and polite when we interact with a stranger in the street.
According to an articleCBS News entitled "Talking to strangers can boost your happiness level, Elizabeth Dunn, professor of psychology atBritish Columbia University (Canada), conducted an experiment to confirm this fact. She found thatwhen people interacted with strangers, they behaved much more pleasantly only with those with whom they trusted. This attitude helped to improve or increase their mood. To feel part of the community, too.
Talking to strangers therefore acts as an emotional switch. It helps us to take enough emotional distance to regulate what we feel and observe the situation from another point of view.
As we can see,talking to strangers is good for our psychological health.It gives us social roots and makes us feel better and more valued. It's also a great opportunity to improve our social skills, communicate with others and feel part of the community.
"Friends are these strange beings who ask us how we are going and expect to hear the answer."-Edd Cunningham-