"Time is the motto of your life, it's the only motto you have, and only you can determine how it will be used, be careful and let no one use it for you."
"Do not waste time …", "What are you doing here to do nothing!", "get up, it's late!"… Many of us can remember their parents who were constantly repeating these sentences as if they were vital mantras.
As if there is always something more important to do.
As the years pass, the need to be constantly busy doing important things and above all, always productive, seems to mark our daily life. On the contrary, it gives us the feeling that time, and more broadly, life, escapes us.
For many, caring outside of work hours by engaging in knowledge, training and retraining activities gives us the feeling of cultivate every second that passes, so that few people prefer to do nothing.
When one is a child, we are told over and over again that time is very precious. If we do not take advantage of the hours we have, then we are immediately considered lazy, or as someone who is doomed to fail.
Finally, this message runs the risk of being translated into adulthood by behaviors similar to those of the White Rabbit in Alice in Wonderland, who spends his time running, and believing he is always late to do something of utmost importance ; according to him, if he does not hurry to do this thing, then he will be punished.
Feeding hyper-responsibility and intolerance to boredom
School, piano, English, swimming, etc. … children are often immersed in a variety of activities, so they end their day just before going to bed.
In many cases, education requires children to do everything to be the best and most productive, constantly underlines the idea that we can always, always, always improve. There's no time to lose.
Two consequences can arise from such behavior: hyper-responsibility, and intolerance to boredom.
- Hyper-responsibility: to be responsible is a virtue. Being hyper-responsible is a brain trap over the years, which, once mature, can be translated into anxiety, perfectionism, a high level of self-esteem, low self-esteem, a lack of insurance, guilt, even shame.
- Intolerance in the face of boredom: not having the chance to "waste time" in childhood and adolescence through creativity and personal development so that eventually, later, it manifests itself in adulthood through anxious processes.
In children, it can be very beneficial to waste time during their adaptation process and developing their intellectual abilities. Growing up, this learned intolerance prevents us from really being ourselves.
Many people hate "downtime" simply because they do not want to be alone with themselves.
The philosophy 24 × 7: is it yours?
We live in an interconnected world. At any time and in any place, we can engage in activities related to our hobbies, our training or our personal development.
Courses, masters, gyms, housework, workshops, work … If we do not do it, other people who share their activities on social networks will not fail to remind us that we are wasting time.
All this is constitutive of our daily life, and feeds the idea of what one "should" be. The philosophy 24 × 7, that is to say to be available and do "something" 7 days a week, 24 hours a day, might not be so beneficial that it seems.
Of course, it is fundamental to seek to flourish by engaging in activities and caring, but how far can one control this quest for fulfillment?
Finally, for people who adhere to this philosophy, it is as unimaginable as it is tragic not to do any activity at a given moment. These people see in the rest something almost despicable. For them, wasting time is useless.
Do not confuse wasting time,
and devote himself to something
Experiment, and do nothing
Weeks organized around our professional and social activities, this is an attractive and necessary daily newspaper. However, find moments to "lose" time, it's very beneficial for our physical and mental health.
Reserve a few minutes of the day or month for do not perform any activity, it can bring us serenityand thus allow us to benefit more from all that we realize and which no longer satisfies us. Why ?
- To get away from something that makes us miserable, and play down.
- To avoid saturation something that was stimulating at first, and eventually became a weight.
- To share moments apart with those around us.
- To relax our bodybecause it reduces stress and anxiety.
- To reorganize our ideas and take initiatives.
- To distinguish what is important from what is urgent.
But… how can one "waste time"? Here are some ideas:
- Sit on the terrace to get your coffee or chocolate and savor it, rather than always ordering it to take away.
- Listen to the lyrics of one of his favorite songs, well installed on his couch.
- Sing in the shower.
- On weekends, have a nice breakfast in the quiet.
- Perform a meditation exercise. Some do not last longer than 20 minutes.
- If you enjoy a single moment at home, enjoy it, do not put away.
- If you have a companion animal, do not just walk around or feed it; also take a few minutes to pet or play with him.
If you are one of those who need a torrent of daily activities to feel good, then keep it up and do not change anything. On the other hand, if, in one way or another, your source of satisfaction depends less on the activity itself than on research to occupy your time, then slow down a bit and give a chance to the watch.
Finally, we can make "lost time", a personal gain …