Our social life begins at an early age with our brothers and sisters and our parents, who will define our future.
When parents are violent, they give us patterns and inculcate behaviors that will affect us for life.
What is violence?
For many, violence corresponds to physical blows. However, the serious problem violence can also manifest itself in a psychological form, which results in hurtful words and a tendency to underestimate others and indifference.
All these behaviors are doomed to hurt the children, consciously or not.
Why are some parents violent with their children?
The reasons that push some parents to be violent are various and vary according to each one, but the most common are:
– Too much stress or fatigue: today, the obligations we face may cause some parents to lose control once they get home after a long day of work. And this behavior can be observed in both a woman and a man.
– The education received: unfortunately, patterns of violence tend to be reproduced. Indeed, when a person has been the victim of abusive parents as a child, most of the time, once she has children, she educates them in the same way that her parents educated her.
– A need to take revenge on the past: whoever before was the victim of his parents then becomes the executioner of his children. He's trying to get control he could not have when he was younger. Unfortunately, such a situation hurts all members of the family.
How are children of abusive parents affected?
Children who are victims of parental violence suffer a loss of social life, which can be translated into different forms:
– The isolated child: he seeks to protect himself by isolating himself. Generally, he is shy, unsociable and unsure of himself. As an adult, he may not get rid of this behavior, and even allow others to attack him again.
– The child hangman: unlike the isolated child, he seeks to express anger by attacking others in the same way that he or she has been or is being abused. As an adult, he can become a violent person who harms those around him, reproducing the patterns of violence.
– The protective child: this profile is often found in adult children, who feel obliged to protect the victims (the other of both parents and siblings). Growing up, they can become adults seeking to find themselves in conflict situations, motivated by their need to protect others.
Today's children are tomorrow's parents
Intra-family violence is a terrible situation for the person who lives it, but when children are victims, it is much more serious, because it will mark them forever and may lead them to be unhappy for the rest of their lives .