Many people focus on acquiring knowledge and developing skills to increase their value as individuals. But for others, we are not a set of knowledge and skills. Our value is not determined by a job or a curriculum.Our value is in reality, for others, determined by what they see in us, what we release, the sensations we transmit. It's our attitude that makes the difference.This is what Víctor Küppers calls "the bulb effect".
With the metaphor of the "light bulb effect", Víctor Küppers develops his hypothesis that this is the key to success, why we project one image and not another. Thus, Küppers defends the power of positive psychology to introduce changes in our lives.
"The light bulb effect"
Víctor Küppers explains that the people are like blisters to the extent that we transmit all sensations and capture the sensations transmitted by others. However, even if we all transmit, we do not all transmit the same thing.
Like the bulbs do not all shine with the same power or with the same type of light,not all people transmit the same kind of sensations.Thus, while some people project a powerful beam, others do not illuminate with sufficient intensity to see, or are directly extinguished.
Where would be the difference in the value of what we project to others? The difference is in the attitude.Küppers' formula for proving this is quite simple "V = (C + H) x A", where "V" is the value, "C" the knowledge, "H" the skills and "A" the attitude.
The importance of attitude
Víctor Küppers does not minimize the contribution of knowledge and skills in the value of individuals. For him, these factors add up. Butthe key to ensuring that knowledge and skills are reflected in the projected valueis the multiplying action of the attitude.
The difference between the big and the mediocre lies in the attitudesays Víctor Küppers. We are not great because of our education, skills or professional achievements. What makes us great is our way of being. That is what matters. What makes the difference.
But what happens when life gets complicated? What happens when plans are distorted when things do not go as planned? How do we deal with unexpected changes that put everything down?When things go wrong, we have two options: to resign ourselves or to fight.
"It's not what's happening to you, it's what you do with what's happening to you."
React: you have the opportunity to live with enthusiasm, despite everything
When things go wrong, many people remain trapped in discouragement, resignation and apathy. They lose illusion, joy and enthusiasm. They resign themselves. But there is another option.Positive psychology offers a way out as it studies what we can do to lift our spirits when we are forced to experience one disappointment after another.
The normal thing is to live with illusion and joy. The absence of these two ingredients is the first reason that should make us react.And if normality is to live happily, it is because we deserve to be happy. The good news is that the attitude can be worked because it does not depend on anyone else. That's why we can change it. We are responsible for our own attitude, no one else. Indeed, it is one of those rare things that depend essentially on ourselves.
"There is nothing like being happy in life, keeping your spirits up in difficult times."-Victor Küppers-
When the important thing is the most important
Everyone has the right to live his own dramas. But it is one thing to live a drama and another to have problems. In this sense,Víctor Küppers makes the difference between the dramas and the circumstances to be solved.
Küppers' approach is clear: there are very few losses that, in the end, can justify the loss of our joy. He emphasizes here the importance of being grateful. When the inertia of the negative acquires power, it is then that we most need this exercise of reflection, so that our field of vision is not reduced to what has not happened as expected, as we we wanted it.
"The most important thing in life is that the most important thing is the most important thing."-Stephen Covey-