"If I had known it was the last time I saw you go through the door, I would have taken you in my arms, I would have kissed you and I would have called you back to hug you again"
(Gabriel Garcia Marquez)
Hugging someone is a simple gesture, but we often forget their ability to comfort and get closer to others.
Of course, words are important, and actions are not always better than words – contrary to the saying.
Sometimes talking about your problems is the best way to solve them. However, the best remedy is sometimes to accompany our words with this gesture, or simply to take someone in our arms.
We already know that a hug …
- Reduces the secretion of cortisol (hormone produced by the body in times of stress),
- Regulates the blood pressure,
- Improve communication between two people,
- Increases self-esteem,
- We feel security and protection thanks to the secretion of oxytocin, a hormone whose main function is to make an individual feel good and affectionate,
- Activates the receptors of our skin.
So, can a hug serve as a vitamin and move us away from the doctor?
According to a study conducted at Carnegie Mellon University in Pennsylvania and conducted by Sheldon Cohen (Professor of Psychology in the Faculty of Social Sciences at CMU Robert E. Doherty University), this idea is more or less close to reality.
Cohen and his team decided to study hugging as an example of social support because it represents a typical revealer of a more intimate and close relationship with another person.
"We know that people who are in conflict with others are less able to fight colds, for example, and we also know that people who claim to have social support are partially protected from the effects of stress on psychological states, such as depression or anxiety ".
In addition, they discovered that …
People who receive frequent social support and hugs are more protected against colds, or have less severe symptoms after being exposed to the virus and once cuddling is counted.
According to Cohen: "This suggests that the fact ofreceiving a hug from a trusted person can act as an effective means of support. In addition, increasing its frequency is an effective way to reduce the harmful effects of stress.
In any case, we do not need any more information to confirm the fact that the hug is one of the best remedies for our sorrows.
The Free Hugs phenomenon is based on the story of Juan Mann, a man whose mission was to hug a stranger to brighten his day. The movement grew in magnitude and spread throughout the world.
” What motivated me was to realize that we lived in an era of social disconnection and lack of human physical contact” .
Now think about yourself, your family, yours, your hugs. Think of times when you were able to calm a tense situation or just those who did you good.
Cuddling in the morning to have a good day, to congratulate someone, or after an argument is to reconnect with the most primary part of ourselves.
To take a person in his arms is to get closer to her,
breathe his essence
and realize that we are all the same.
Think about the last time you took someone in your arms, unconditionally …
To finish this article, you could get closer to the person who is next to you and take a long time in your arms, as if to stop the time. A hug that would last at least 8 seconds. Strong and intense.
As Jackselins Arteaga said:"A hug is something grandiose. This is the best way to demonstrate the love you feel when you can not find the right words. "
How many problems could be solved in the world if we embraced each other more often?