The rule of three "s" offers us a simple but valuable lesson.According to this proposition, we must know how to let go, because we give in to our own potential when we let go. We must then smile, which allows us to connect with our interior to generate optimism and confidence. Later, we must feel the moment and open ourselves to all that is to come.
José Luis Sampedro said that we all have the duty to seek freedom. NOTWe know, however, that freedom sometimes demands a certain amount of courage and that we are not always prepared for it. We learn from childhood to cross the street when the light is green, to obtain the smallest common multiple of two or more natural numbers, to differentiate eukaryotic cells from prokaryotes, and a long list of knowledge. All this knowledge does not promote our happiness and our personal growth.
"In the end, we are what we do to change who we are."
According to the psychologist James O. Prochaska, known for having established what we call the model of change Prochaska and Di Clemente, it should be taught very early two very specific dimensions to individuals. These two concepts are actually two pillars of life learning. We talk about perseverance and the healthy process of change.
Perseverance is the ability to engage in purpose. It's about bringing together resources, motivation, time and energy to reach that goal, for that dream, for that person. However, this commitment sometimes loses its meaning when there is no more profit. When we feed on false illusions rather than realities. This will be the moment when we will have to apply the well-known rule of the three "s".Let's see what it consists of.
The rule of three "s" for advancement and emotional growth
We indicated beforehand that nobody prepares us for changes in our school education, or even in that received at home.No one taught us, for example, what to do when anger, disappointment or frustration accumulated in us painfully.This emotional puzzle, messy and unresolvable was something that we ended up swallowing forcibly, and then left it out as if nothing had happened.
This, so common and well-known, did not happen in the Hawaiian people of century XIX. They considered that the mind, body and soul were integrally linked. Therefore,thatwho accumulated negative emotions, who fought internal fights alone, ended up being sick. Thus, to avoid unrest that produced a multitude of physical and psychological ailments, Hawaiians applied an evocative and wonderful practice that was collected and described by David Kaonohiokala Bray, a priest who popularized and introduced to the world much of this indigenous culture.
This is the black bag and the rule of three "s", which we will describe in detail below.
Black bags and the need to let go
The group was meeting and performing the black bag ceremony when a community member was going through a difficult time.It was simply that the person listed aloud anything that disturbed, worried or feared. Each thought was symbolized by a stone that was then introduced into this object.
The community then buried the bag in a secret place. The liberation and destruction of the black bag occurred only when this member of the community had implemented the rule of three "s".And to do this, the first step was to learn how to get tired.
This practice, this enclave of our personal growth, is achieved through an adequate "emotional cleansing".As the Hawaiian community explained, just as we clean our clothes, our house or our cooking utensils, we also need to be able to clean up and give up the emotions that imprison us. Which "dirty" us inside.
The next step in the "three" rule is to smile.Thus, we must try to smile even if it is not obvious after daring to let certain things go. The reason is obvious. We experience a void when we dare to release negative emotions and break bonds with what is no longer useful or profitable to us.
It's like being suspended in the air. Indeed, we are aware of having left behind us many burdens, many luggage and many stones. We now have before us a clean slate.To prevent this emptiness or this white canvas frighten us, we must dare to smile. We must embrace what needs to happen with optimism.
Feel the pleasure of freedom
The last key of the "three" rule is the most optimistic, the most stimulating. It's about feeling freedom.Ponder this. When was the last time we really felt free? This dazzling feeling appears when there is no more weight inside. When there are no black bags occupying our thoughts. Thoughts that grab our body and take away our health.
To feel is to embrace the present. It's having self-confidence, listening to yourself and listening to what's going on.To feel is to live without fear. This is what we should do on a daily basis, as did the old community of Hawaii. Indeed, it was only when the person reached this last stage, to feel free emotionally, that the group met again to destroy this black bag where were his sorrows, his fears, his anger, blockages …
Let's think about it. Let's apply the rule of three "s" everyday.