Memories are like the waves of the sea, they come and go, capricious and even malevolent, they bring us to a moment of the past: a voice, a smell, a sound, a time marked by sadness or joy …
We human beings are made of memories that determine and build, which trace our roots and who we are. We are beings who experiment, grow, mature and learn.
The double face of memories
Memories are images of the past that are stored in memory, successive reproductions at a given moment on which we tend to give an interpretation that often relates to a given emotional charge.
In fact, these two concepts "memory / emotion" are so close that sometimes the mere fact of feeling happy, frightened or unhappy, almost always implies the emergence of a particular memory of the past. These are afective reactions that show us the important weight that memories have in our personality.
But, as Cervantes said, "Oh memory, mortal enemy of my rest"sometimes memories also make us suffer.
It can happen that we cling too much to a particular memory until we move away from our reality and our responsibilities, and fall into a depression or a crisis of nerves for example.
The problem is not looking back and remembering, which is worrying is when you live permanently in the past. This can lead to a fear of the present, to the challenges that life throws at us.
It is true that being anchored in the past gives us a sense of permanent security, but we must take into account that it is not a real or mature situation.
Positive memories to live better
Good memories are often used in psychology to connect with meaningful personal experiences of our past.
Tall that is positively charged, what we have lived at a moment of our existence, has the potential to recharge in a good mood in the present.
The mystery behind all this is that good memories can be used to enhance our present memories.
This often shows us that we are not far from where we want to be, and that we already have some of the solution inside our experience chest.
We can explain it, for example, by studies on so-called mirror neurons. In addition to strengthening our empathy and understanding, they allow us to connect with a memory of our brain recreating the same state experienced during the moment of origin, whether pleasant or unpleasant emotions.
Thus, if for example we want to learn to be more positive, they will help us remember the moments when we acted with confidence and ease, and will reconnect with the positive feelings that this behavior we have developed.
In addition, we can also learn to resurrect our pleasant memories, and thus enjoy the positive effects of reliving a situation that we have experienced as satisfying, exciting and motivating.
In addition, if we bring good memories constantly to help us strengthen our current adaptation resources, we can create a self-sustaining system of protection and well-being.
The more we focus on what has happened to us in life, the more we recharge our batteries with positive energy.
This positive energy makes us feel good, and it also increases the possibility that we react to negative events with less pessimism. This is called resilience in psychology.
We can therefore conclude that, while it is true that we should not live on memories, memories help us to live.