Verbal communication is only a small part of what we express. Normally, our words are filtered by social conditioning or by circumstances, so they do not always communicate what we really want to say.
However, something completely different happens with the eyes, and it is for this reason that it is often said that they are the mirror of the soul.
The language of the eyes is unconscious.Indeed, none of us constantly have control over the way we look around.
We can even less control the opening field of our pupils, or the level of humidity in our eyes. These small details hold valuable information about what's really going on in our minds.
The pupil alphabet
The pupils send very subtle messages, which is why they usually go unnoticed.
However, they have an alphabet of their own and it is possible to decipher. The most visible aspect of the pupils is their size, which changes automatically according to the circumstances, and independently of our will.
Normally, pupils dilate if we look at an object that we like or if we find ourselves in a situation that makes us comfortable.
Obviously, they get bigger if the light is weak or if we have trouble seeing something. But if the conditions of illumination and visibility are good, the dilation of the pupils is a sign that something pleases us.
The opposite is also true.That is, when we face something that scares us or generates a rejection reaction, the pupils shrink.
Small pupils are a sign of hostility and bad mood, even if we do not look directly at the object that is at the source of these emotions.
It is likely that this phenomenon has been known intuitively for hundreds of years. Chinese prostitutes and ancient Egyptians used Belladonna (a medicinal plant) on their eyes to increase the size of their pupils when looking after their clients. They had to think that this artifice made them more desirable.
With regard to the contracted pupils, it is easy to observe them in the eyes of anyone who is preparing for the attack. In addition to squinting, we will see that pupil size also shrinks if we take the time to observe each other.
The eyes are constantly moving, even when we sleep. Generally, these are small movements in the eyelids and eyeballs that are quite difficult to notice.
However, there are more explicit movements that identify what is behind this dynamic.
If the eyes move upward and tilt to the right, it means that memory-related brain mechanisms have started. This movement usually follows the evocation of a past event or situation.
On the other hand, if the eyes move up and to the left, it means that the creative functions related to the visual medium have just activated. This movement usually occurs when we see an image that seems surprising to us.
The action of pointing the eyes to the left is a clear sign that the creative process has just been activated. Turning them to the right refers to memory. In both cases, they allude to sound experiences.
These are just a few examples of the vast universe of nonverbal communication.
Although knowing how to read in the eyes of the person we are talking to may be useful, it must be remembered that eye movements also take on an anecdotal value, as they reveal only isolated data as to what is really happening in our brain.
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