Communication with our environment begins in the womb: we respond to stimuli, although these responses are not reflected.Our communication is emerging as we grow.We practice it, so that it changes to meet certain social patterns. Then comes the moment when we can talk about intentional communication and conscious communication.
Communicating our needs facilitates survival, connecting with people around us.It is something natural that arises in us spontaneously. However, we are talking recently about another type of communication: conscious communication.
Mindfulness, or conscious communication, allows us to be aware of the present.The way we communicate with the environment is multiple today. Some studies recommend focusing on one task rather than succumbing to the modern temptation of multiple tasks or divided attention. This concerns both production and receipt of information. Communicating is not just about producing information, it's about knowing how to interpret it.
What is mindfulness?
We often know what we say, we strongly believe in our point of view, but we divide our attention when we receive messages. So let's think.listenwe really, or are we just waiting for the other to finish to be able to talk? Are we aware of our nonverbal communication?For better or for worse, the latter transmits a good part of the messages that we communicate.
Being a conscious speaker is precisely that, being an actor in all our communication. It is not an easy process. He must start at school, where children practice certain exercises related to conscious communication. For example, the exercises of empathy and acceptance of the other are a good way to introduce this subject to the youngest. Emotions are fundamental in our daily lives. Their mastery requires a lot of patience and practice, even if we sometimes forget it.
Practice the mindfulness, or being aware, involves not letting go of anger or irritation when we communicate with others. Knowing when to give free rein to emotions is a sign of conscious communication. Emotional intelligence will help us in this task. An emotional intelligence that manifests itself in the realm of our emotions, as well as in the acceptance of those of others.
How to practice conscious communication?
The first step to follow when we want to be conscious speakers is to understand that thecommunication is a process. Want to be mindful does not mean being. This skill covers many areas:
- Spelling and the right dialectic: a person who makes spelling mistakes, bases his language on expressions or does notstructure not correctly his speech is a speaker who weighs down his own communication. The verb is one of our first business cards. Taking care of it is always important.
- The lack of emotions in the speech: communication does not rely solely on the transmission of information. It will be more difficult to reach the recipients if we only produce information.We will win if we imbue it with emotions, allusions and empathy with others.The effect will be immediate. The audience will feel how part of the communication process. We will gain his involvement, his attention. It also increases the likelihood that our message will be stored in its memory.
- Non-verbal communication : non-verbal communication refers not only to gestures and other types of body language, but also to implicit or pragmatic information that we share with our interlocutor. So let's try to take into account both aspects: it is important that ourbody language indicates that we are open to dialogue and other ways of thinking. Thepragmatic elements are also fundamental. The language or the emotions implicit, the social codes that we share or in which we are different must constantly be kept in mind to better adapt to those with whom we communicate.
- Responsibility for feelings: we do not all feel the same. We do not express our emotions in the same way. If we want something from others, we must find the most appropriate way to ask for it.
To conclude, êBeing conscious speakers makes us more efficient speakers. It makes us more empathetic. This allows us to express ourselves more appropriately to our social context and to create stronger social bonds. We are talking about a difficult process, because it will involve, among other things, identifying and recognizing our current mistakes.But the results are worth it.