The postponed happiness syndrome (or DHS, deferred happiness syndrome) is a consequence of our poor time management. The plans that we set ourselves are constantly being postponed because of various obligations that inexorably follow.
The negative emotions that derive from this perverse habit can affect our performance as well as our personal and professional relationships.They may even end up changing our personality.It is therefore important to know how to manage the obligations and pleasures so that the former do not crush the second.
- 1 Happiness and other emotions
- 2 Symptoms of the syndrome of happiness adjourned
- 3 The consequences of the shift of happiness
- 4 How to cope with the syndrome of happiness adjourned?
- 5 Put order in your priorities
- 6 Consider what makes you happy already
- 7 The three emotional mistakes that limit your happiness
Happiness and other emotions
Happiness is what is called a positive emotion. Why ? Because in general, its effects on the body and relationships are positive. We can say that we feelhappiness when we feel fully satisfied.This satisfaction, born from the realization of a goal or a pleasant experience, can not be disturbed.
We tend to think, wrongly, that happiness is an emotion that will always be positive. But beware!A priori,its effects are positive but our mind can deceive us.
We feel a hint of happiness (or, at least, pleasure) when we imagine, remember or wish to live happy moments.But this illusion of happiness does not last long.As a result, it can turn into frustration, weariness and stress.
Symptoms of the syndrome of happiness adjourned
To know if we suffer from this syndrome,we can pay attention to the following symptoms:
- You are constantly looking for something better.You are never satisfied with your successes and always see opportunities for improvement. Inevitably, these will remove any interest in your success and you will not value them anymore.
- You are obsessed with moneyand save all you can, in order to spend it when you need it. But this moment never comesbecause nothing is ever urgent enough.
- The fear of failure obsesses you so much thatyou prefer to stay in the situation you are ininstead of growing on the family or professional level.
These three symptoms, collected or taken individually, are proof that you need a change.Delaying your happiness only gives free rein to negative emotions.And prevents us from being really happy. Very often, in the end, happiness does not happen anymore because we have delayed it too much.
The consequences of the shift of happiness
The effects of the postponed happiness syndrome are obvious. We will becomeapathetic, melancholic or irritable.In reality, the person who suffers from this syndrome is only continually updating his happiness by constantly projecting himself into the future. This one ends up not to arrive any more.
So,a fear eventually appears. A fear of failure, but also of risk in itself.We are afraid of endangering a lifestyle considered reasonable or stable. The fact is that, very often, this image of life is not real. It results from the idea that "we must not aspire to more things".
How to cope with the syndrome of happiness adjourned?
If we suffer from this syndrome, we may not be aware of our problem. On the other hand, if we know what is happening to us, it is importantto act as soon as possible.
Put order in your priorities
The solution is tofocus on what is really important. This does not always coincide with what is urgent.What does that mean? Whether you need to prioritize or spend time on what you love. It's just a matter of seeing that you need a space to appreciate things and not just to suffer or sacrifice yourself. Even though this sacrifice can make you feel good afterwards.
This desire to be happy will probably push you to take risks. These are necessary to advance.If we constantly avoid them, we will eventually lose in quality of life … and all this thanks to these limitations that we set ourselves. Limitations that leave us little room for maneuver.
Consider what makes you happy already
Nobody is completely unhappy. We all have something that makes us happy in our life and it's an interesting starting point. Instead of continuing to project our happiness, even if this projection is to reorganize our priorities, living in the present will help us to change.
If certain habits make you feel good, like reading or traveling for a few days, try not to let your obligations trample on those moments. In the end, in the face of the delayed happiness syndrome,the plan of the hypothesis is much less tangible than reality.