Love includes, it does not exclude.
He multiplies and adds, he does not divide.
He gets closer, he does not move away.
He comforts, he does not trample.
He understands, he does not judge.
It is not always easy to create a quality relationship. Indeed, most of us live immersed in routine and we do not even manage to recreate new ones.
To this is added an immense difficulty, because before driving new loves, first you have to come to love yourself.
It is not usual for a relationship to begin with conflict and negative experiences. Let's assume that any relationship starts well. In this sense, the ball is inevitably in your camp when starting the match.
We live in an incessant whirlwind of emotions, fragile relationships and sentimental haste. So what can you do to create quality relationships? We reveal to you today the five basic principles, which you will not be able to escape:
1. I am not alone, we are two
Do you know that it is useless to "look for one's half"? A person is whole. Look for a whole person and integrity with whom you can ride in every sense of the word.
In a romantic relationship, both people have to walk hand in hand, by supporting themselves in their projects, their goals and their feelings.
2. Communication is the key
Listen to your partner face to face, think carefully and balance your feelings. In a technology-driven era, most couples have become accustomed to communicating through instant messaging or social media.
This kind of communication deteriorates a couple for several reasons. One of them is that a constant need for communication, taxing and control is created.
The worst of all is that it is an empty, routine and absolutely not passionate communication, which can lead to misunderstandings that are extremely harmful to the couple's trust.
3. The past is the past
We have had good and bad experiences that have done what we are today. Forgive yourself, forgive others and let go of bad feelings.
The past is over, put away your past feelings and stop comparing your present reality with a past reality that no longer exists.
In other words, sometimes take the time to stop and analyze your bag of emotions, to get rid of what is negative and useless.
Be aware that what you do is strongly determined by what you have inside of you, and thatIt is extremely important to often make new trips with a lighter, brand new backpack.
4. Use the right words
In love, there are magic words that warm the heart. It is not a question of reciting everyday poetry, no, but of maintaining a comprehensive communication and an affectionate attitude as the basis of the relationship.
Thus, it is more than important that the "hello" do not sink into the routine, and that the "I love you" remain sincere and passionate.
We must not be carried away by anger and disrespect, this point is fundamental and indisputable. Nothing and no one can justify aggressive and totalitarian behavior toward the person we love.
5. Offer what you would like to receive and speak with your heart
Here is another important point that proves a union, tenderness and appreciation towards the other. Show your interest in your half, make it laugh, give it love, and then, I am sure, you will receive it.
These five fundamental points will cement a healthy and lasting relationship.
Do not forget your goals and keep in mind that, as Robert Holden said: "the ultimate goal of a relationship is to be the most loving person it can exist” .
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