The human species is probably the most dependent at birth, since it takes time to learn to walk, and to properly address the things around us.
We hear a lot of parents say that they would like their child to be more independent, even though they tend to overprotect him. Yet, if they want their child to develop properly, it is fundamental to teach him how to be independent.
What is meant by "inculcating autonomy"?
The level of autonomy that can be required of a child obviously depends on his age and his cognitive development.
A child evolves as follows:
– When he between one and a half and three yearsyou can start by teaching him to walk and to move alone. As for language, he must know how to express his primary needs (thirst, desire to pee …)
– Between three and five years, the language develops enormously. We must therefore teach the child to express his wishes and to communicate his needs to people outside the family circle. One must also begin to teach him to eat, sleep and dress alone, as well as to acquire the basic rules of hygiene. It's also time to let him put his toys away alone.
– Between five and eight years, the child becomes more responsible in school and in social relationships. It is also at this age that he can eat, sleep and wash without any help.
We can then teach the child to organize his free time and do his homework independently. At home, you can also involve him in housework by asking him to tidy up his room and help put the table on the table.
– Between eight years and adolescencethe child begins to know himself, to be aware of his successes as well as his failures, and to consider the consequences of his actions.
It is at this age that one can begin to make him more responsible for planning his free time and participating in household chores.
Rules to put in place to teach the child to be autonomous
Although this can sometimes be exhausting, However, it is necessary to introduce rules allowing the child to be independent and responsible.
Here are some simple rules to establish:
– Achievement of objectives : As we said earlier in this article, each age corresponds to a specific level of autonomy, but each child also has its own conditions.
– Perseverance : when educating a child, one must be consistent in the tasks they are asked to do.
– The game : especially with regard to the education of young children, it is less a matter of imposing on them than of encouraging them, and this can be done through play.
– Habits : for a child to eat, sleep and wash himself, he must acquire habits, which will enable him to gain in insurance.
– Reflection on successes and failures: the more the child grows, the more important it is to establish a climate with him that is conducive to communication.
– Moral support: it is fundamental to help children overcome their fears, recover from their frustrations when they fail and congratulate them when they succeed.
In short, autonomy is an important aspect of the personality that must be instilled in the child if it is to develop properly.