You probably know the concept of somatization of emotions if you have ever suffered from anxiety. Our body begins to manifest a series of symptoms that seem to have no apparent cause. For example, notice something that obstructs the throat, the appearance of a rash or digestive problems. We will discover today that the somatisation of emotions in dependent people is habitual and even more powerful than normal.
The big problem that arises when we somatize the emotionsis the inability to relate what we feel to what is manifested in our body. We tend to justify the stomach ache by eating something that was not good quality. We even consider that eczema is the product of an allergic reaction. It can sometimes be so. But our symptoms probably mean more if we are suffering from anxiety and we are in a relationship of dependency.
We will tell the story of Rebecca (fictitious name) to better understand how the somatization of emotions in dependent people works. We will enter a senseless relationship of attachment with this character. So that we can see how the symptomatology tells him that she should get out of this relationship.
Rebeca had been in a relationship for 3 years, even though the relationship was not working. Her husband was always playing video games and wanted to stay at home all the time. She, on the other hand, wanted to go out more and do other types of activities. There were many other aspectsindicated that they did not get along.Rebecca had nevertheless entered this relationship for fear of being alone. So that she would not abandon him so easily.
Rebecca also had many relationship issues with her spouse's mother. She had been a single mother and was very attached to her son. The constant calls and even pretending that she felt bad for her son's attention were frequent, and generated many discussions. Rebecca was protesting, getting angry,but nothing really changed.
Rebeca began to experience something strange in this third year of life as a couple.She sometimes had an allergic reaction on her face in the most unexpected situations. The rash sometimes appeared while she was having sex with her partner. Rebecca did not pay attention to it at first. She took antihistamines and continued her life.
This is a perfect example of emotions manifesting through the body. As we said at the beginning of this article, the somatization of emotions in dependent peopleis a clear indication that something is wrong. The body will manifest itself through other problems (digestive, pain, dermatitis) as the symptoms disappear, until the person realizes what is happening and takes steps to change that.
The moment when everything worsened
One day, at a dinner with friends of her husband's mother, she began to have trouble speaking. It seemed that his throat was closing. Rebeca controlled herself, but this was repeated in other situations from that day.When she consulted, the doctor told her she had a "hysterical globe" .
As she had done with the rash,Rebecca gave it little importance. She ignored the fact that she was beginning to suffer from sleep paralysis, very severe headaches and nausea, as well as severe abdominal pain.
Once, after getting angry with her husband about her mother, she spent a whole day without news of him. He did not answer when she called him. He showed no sign of life. Rebeca thought the worst, that her husband wanted to leave her. She began to feel unsustainable headache. Rebeca lost all desire to eat and suffered from a drop in blood pressure. She could not get up from the couch because she was dizzy. This symptomatology diminished until it completely disappeared when her husband called her.
The dependency relationship
Rebeca did not realize she did not want to be with her partner anymore. She always criticized him for having to stay home to play video games and not to impose limits on his mother …She was tired of enduring the same situation. More than that, she was angry at herself because she said nothing at first, was blind, and all the bothered her now.
Sheinternally wanted to end the relationship because she was exhausting it. She could not, however, and was very afraid of being alone.His inability to make a coherent decision was evident in his body. She was not in a relationship that made her feel good. Rebeca finally ended the relationship, but she was already thinking of another person to avoid being alone. The same symptoms returned after a while, but multiplied by 100. The cycle was repeated again and the symptoms worsened.
As we can see, somatizationwill reappear in other circumstances and with other people if the problem that leads to it are not solved. Somatization of emotions shows addicts that they should delve into these problems they have ignored for too long.
Somatization of emotions in dependent people can become very serious. It can causepanic attacks, physical discomfort very important and a great malaise. Those who suffer from addiction do not realize what is happening to them. They would know, however, that they want to get out of the situation they were in if they stopped and took the time to listen.
Through this story, we wish to teach you to identify what the signals in the bodies of others are trying to say, but also to recognize them in order to decide to act.If you think your body is sending you a message, try listening to it.You will end up discovering something truly precious.