There are some people who seem to have a high self-esteem, but basically they are only very egocentric and have low self-esteem.
They talk all the time about them and their successes, and when things do not go as they would have liked, they generally explain these failures by external reasons without ever recognizing their responsibility.
They are people who lack confidence and who do everything to hide it.
So they think that vulnerability rhymes with weakness, and forget that they have the right to make mistakes and make mistakes, like everyone else. This should not be a reason for them to feel bad, or threatened by the eyes of others.
By not assuming their responsibility, these people not only prevent themselves from self-criticism that would allow them to adapt, but also feel the need to apologize when they make a mistake.
People with a healthy self esteem
On the other hand, there are also people who have a high self-esteem and who, instead of talking about themselves and their successes, listen to others and look forward to their successes.
These people learn from others, and show humility without flaunting their lives, since for them successes and mistakes are two sides of one and the same coin. When they are wrong, they know how to ask forgiveness without justification.
They accept and learn from the mistakes they commit, which strengthens them, since such a philosophy allows them to excel and improve.
It can only be beneficial to sometimes make an introspection on oneself, in order to realize how one has to act to confront it with the way one would like to act. Thus, recognizing that you are not perfect is the first step towards a high self-esteem, since when you make a mistake, you always have the opportunity to get up and learn from our mistakes.
On the other hand, it can also be good to say what state of mind we are in when we are experiencing significant success. Usually, one is proud of oneself and happy, but still it is necessary that this pride is healthy, and that one does not consider oneself thus as all powerful, or that one has the impression that the world revolves around oneself .
Rather, we need to understand that our successes facilitate the path to healthy self-esteem. However, if you overestimate yourself, you can fall into the clutches of the ego.
In the movie The Pacific Warrior, the scientist tells the young something that we should all remember: "you are no stronger than the others, but not less either".
It is the definition of self-esteem that is as strong as it is healthy: to know that one is neither better nor worse than the others, but different.
Know that we have our own abilities, which will help us develop a strong self-esteem and forge better relationships and a happier life.