Do you think that you are able to reach the goal you have set for yourself?You may be thinking about starting your own business or learning to drive, but maybe you have some doubts about your ability to do it. If so, it indicates that you have a very weak and fragile perception of self-efficacy. It is therefore unlikely that you get what you want.
We have seen one of the best scenarios of the concept of self-efficacy in Obama's speech in the US presidential election. We are talking about his famous"Yes, we can!", Which translates as: We can!A positive and motivating message that will reduce to a large extent the number of goals we set if we convert it into our mantra.If we give him credibility, obviously. We will trust our abilities and our ability to cope with difficulties.
"Trusting yourself does not guarantee success, but failure to do so guarantees failure."-Albert Bandura-
Albert Bandura is a psychologist most intimately involved in this construction. This researcher has developed a theory that emphasizes, among other postulates, that there are certain variables of the person that influence his behavior and that are related to the feeling of self-efficacy. One of them is precisely the degree of confidence of an individual in his abilities or his effectiveness to achieve a result.
This is not enough, however, to feel valid and capable. That is whywe will discuss belowthree important aspects to increase our self-efficacy. We will achieve most of the goals we have set if we devote enough time to each one of them.
To be realistic
It is impossible that everything is perfect. There are many things for which we will have to strive and work. This does not mean, however, that we can not achieve our goals in most cases.It's about finding out what we need to develop. To detect new skills in which to invest our time to achieve the set goals.
This is why we must see ourselves in a precise and honest way, and then observe the goal we want to achieve.What do we have in our favor right now? What should we focus on? The important thing is not to give up immediately. It is necessary to analyze, plan and reflect. Most dreams come true through effort and illusion.
We must also ensure that our goals are achievable. This being so, we must also be aware that its realization will take time.Gaining experience in unknown areas does not happen overnight. Nevertheless, we will realize how far we have come when we look back.
Slowly but surely
Fragile self-efficacy comes from a hurry.In other words, by fleeing forward in order to obtain by impulses and in the short term what we desire. Not knowing how to wait, rushing, will lead us directly to failure. We are looking for immediate satisfaction. Get everything we want right away. We are not prepared to wait for months or even years to get it.
All success is nevertheless based on perseverance.The progression will be much better than with a sudden change. Perseverance allows us to grow and increase our self-efficacy. It is very difficult to achieve our goals without it.
When we are moving quickly, it is also possible that we return to the starting point as quickly.Share
Imagine we are part of a climbing group. If we are in a hurry to reach the top, we will not pay attention to how we move forward.We could fall or see our nerves take over not climbing as fast as we would like. Nevertheless, we will continue to want to arrive quickly. So that we will hang at some point. Doubts will emerge and we will question our possibilities to achieve our goal. We did not pay attention to our self-efficacy, which gradually weakened.
Now,if we look at where our feet and hands are, how they cling and hold, we will learn little by little what works or does not work for us.Although our ascent is slow, we will know that sooner or later we will reach the summit because we are learning and growing. Because we trust in ourselves and in our progress. It is possible that we fall. But we will get up and try again, without hesitation. Our sense of self-efficacy will have grown by leaps and bounds.
The path offers clues
The path we take gives us clues to guide our trajectory.We just need to free ourselves from rigidity and pave the way for new alternatives to act properly when we encounter obstacles.
If we focus on obstacles and waste time turning around, we will never see what's next.Accepting that we have been wrong and valuing our paths is an option we must always keep in mind. The fear of failure should not scare us.
There must be a reason if time passes and we do not move forward. NOTorWe must observe around us because sometimes nothing happens as we had planned, especially in us. Do we really consider ourselves capable and valid? It may be that our internal critic plays us a bad trick and boycots us through doubts.
It is important to have a high self-efficacy, to be flexible in order to adapt to the circumstances.To change the chosen path when it does not lead us where we want to go. We must open our eyes to become aware of what is happening, the degree of trust we have in each other.
It should be flexible if we want to have a great deal of self-efficacy. We must learn to adapt to circumstances, to change course when the chosen path does not take us where we want to go, and to open our eyes to understand what is happening and not waste time.
"Although the currents are passing and the water is changing, the river remains the same, do not be moved by circumstances, grow with them."-Beon Quantum-
Our motivation will increase when we consider our actions as effective.We must do this beforehand. If we have completed all the steps but have doubts about our ability, why not stop to see how we treat ourselves? Interviewing people around us may be able to help us.