As the name implies, the word "pre-occupation" is about taking care of something before the time comes.Share
When you are concerned in the morning, you are unable to enjoy the present moment. In other words, worries paralyze the presentand they immobilize the present moment.
How often do you not sleep because you are thinking about something? This loss of energy to replay an infinity of possibilities causes a physical and mental exhaustion that will generate in you the opposite effect of what you want.
Indeed, when managing the situation, you will be exhausted and your ability to make decisions will surely be diminished.
Some people fall into an infinite circle of worries, creating imaginary monsters, and imagining a thousand and one fatalities that could happen to them in a more or less short period of time.
Unfortunately, these people do not live the moment because they are too concerned about finding a solution to their problems, which in 90% of cases will not happen.
Do not confuse disinterest with laziness and irresponsibilitybecause the person who is not worried will face the worry or the problem when the time comes, while the lazy and the irresponsible will avoid it.
So, I strongly encourage you not to focus on your problems. Adopt the "carefree life"in other words, the carefree life:
Press the brake pedal
When your little head prepares to go through a marathon of 50 imaginary problems, brake, and breathe.
If you live dizzy day after day, your thoughts will go to 100km / hour, and this speed will make your mind go far beyond rationality, even going so far as to convert you into futurists.
You will find yourself making predictions as fateful and unlikely as your level of concern.
Be rational. Work on your reflective analysis!
In the face of an excessively recurring worry, try to caricature it. This does not mean laughing or running away from it, but rather pushing it to another extreme, ie visualizing the worst that could happen to you.
You will see that it was not so bad. When you think about it, you will understand that the possibilities that all this is happening are insignificant.
Some things are beyond our control, such as life, death, natural disasters or accidents. Worrying is useless.
If you learn to live without worry, you will be much more prepared to face these kinds of situations. Your mind will not be invaded by anticipations and you will be able to fully take care of the situation in question when the time comes.
No matter how anxious you are, the worries of your half are his worries to him / her. Be emphatic and try to help him as best you can, but learn not to appropriate the dilemmas of others.
Do not worry about problems that do not concern you, because you have enough of it yourself.
No more "and if …"
The "and if …", it is these imaginary friends who have the unfortunate tendency to interrupt your thoughts, causing a thousand and one doubts. And if… I did not make the right decision? And if… tomorrow I was fired?
Instead of helping you, the "and if …" cause unnecessary stress. If your decision is not correct, then you will have learned how to do it next time.
If tomorrow you are fired … well, do not worry because you can become a diviner with all your "and if …"!
In about 90% of cases, people thinking with "what if …" are wrong. You can now calculate how much time you lose on a daily basis to make such predictions and start to occupy it in a more rewarding way.
Concentrate on the present moment
Surrounded by so many concerns, you do not consider the present moment. You live in a fictional future that prevents you from enjoying this coffee with friends, from this book that you so eagerly wanted to read, from this conversation or simply from the wonderful feeling you feel when you relax and we do not think of anything.
Learn to relax. Go out into the streets, breathe, observe, listen, savor and feel this moment. With all your senses. Time flies and past moments will not come back.
So send your "and if …" walks because today you have much more beautiful things to accomplish.