We have all had to deal with difficult situations.
Some are very difficult to manage (having to deal with the death of a child, a serious illness, or being the victim of an attack, for example), and others, much more "simple" and frequent, like the loss of work, financial problems or a break-up, can also make someone sinking and lead him to believe that life no longer makes sense.
But we all have the capacity to face the difficulties, to overcome them, and adapt to the consequences: this is the RESILIENCE.
When someone is said to be resilient, it does not mean that in the face of difficulty, she feels no emotion or is unable to suffer, but after a moment of suffering, doubt or insecure, it has the ability to tap into it the resources necessary to continue living by keeping your head up.
But this is difficult in practice, and it's not about who is resilient and who is not, but about what behaviors and ways of thinking can help us move forward.
Some people are genetically more vulnerable than others to a difficult situation. However, they can be resilient if they have grown up in a supportive environment.
The most resilient people are more realistic, more flexible, and have clearer ideas. They are also less likely to jump to conclusions or exaggerate. These people have three main characteristics:
– they accept reality as it is
– for them, life has a real meaning
– they have the ability to improve
In this way, just like the Phoenix rising from the ashes, we humans have the ability to leave our hard times behind us, learn from them, and come out stronger. However, family, school, and society influence our ability to be resilient or not.
What you gain from being resilient
Being resilient can help identify the causes of a problem (which makes it possible to avoid that this same problem arises again in the future) and to control his emotions or his impulses in the face of a crisis situation.
A resilient person therefore has realistic optimism, confidence in the future, and the feeling of controlling his life. This allows him to succeed in finding new challenges and to lead a more satisfying life.
Furthermore, Resilient people are in good health because they have more self-esteem, take a less critical look at themselves, do better in school or at work, are more satisfied with their relationships and are less likely to suffer from depression.