Overcoming laziness and apathy is not just a question of will.It is very difficult to find motivation when, behind these two psychological dimensions, one generally finds fear, affliction, a lack of emotional support and, sometimes, an underlying illness. Disorders such as depression or a problem in the thyroid gland often play a role in this type of condition.
When a person dives into the pit of apathy and laziness, his reality changes completely.She can not find enough resources to get out of this situation.She can not always have the energy to recover her vitality. Nor to find new motivating goals that would make him recover the desire, the brio or the hope.
"The opposite of love is not hate but apathy."
From a clinical point of view, it is often better to understand what is under that well. It's better than providing immediate strategies to get out of it.It is necessary to know what lies behind this apathetic attitude, this fatigue and this lack of motivation.It is neither logical nor useful to give solutions to a patient without having discerned what triggered this state.
In recent years, many studies and works have been done on this subject. We know, for example, that demotivation is not always a reflection of idleness. It is not a form of passivity that one simply chooses for lack of interest.The lack of motivation and apathy are linked to very concrete brain circuits.These, at times, can reveal certain pathologies.
These are factors that we must take into account when choosing the most appropriate therapy.
The shadows behind the demotivation
To overcome laziness and apathy, it takes more than advice.When these states are not punctual in time and eventually become chronic, the person (and his entourage) must realize that a change is necessary.For that, it is a priority to have an accurate diagnosis that allows us to start making small innovations in our routine and in our personal point of view to get out of the well that we quoted.
If there is one thing we have to leave out in these situations, it is the pejorative terms.Many patients who suffer from laziness and apathy are not "lazy" because they have decided it.We must avoid categorizing inactivity and lack of interest as weakness of character. It is neither useful nor just. Let's see what is really behind these states.
Factors that determine the onset of laziness and apathy
- Lack of sense of self-efficacy.Often, and for a variety of reasons, the person ceases to believe in his or her effectiveness to achieve things, to be successful, to feel useful in his daily responsibilities. This feeling is devastating.
- Absence of emotional supportWhen our surroundings are not emotionally available or when we are surrounded by coldness and disinterest, these states of apathy and demotivation may arise.
- The fear of failing, of trying and of making the same mistakes as yesterday.The fear of getting out of our comfort zone. Anxiety when changing habits. The anxiety when discovering new things … All these factors often undermine our desires and our courage.
In addition, we must also take into account the organic and / or neurological factors.Conditions such as fibromyalgia, hypothyroidism or even Alzheimer's disease can play a role in this permanent sensation of lack of energy,of apathy and demotivation. We can not forget that laziness and disinterest are usually shown with depressive disorders.
How to overcome laziness and apathy
To overcome laziness and apathy, we need support. Specialized support and that of our entourage. It is necessary to perceive in the latter a genuine sense of understanding and not of censorship.Because the lack of envy, enthusiasm and motivation is accentuated if one receives only criticisms or marks of contempt …
To better understand how to overcome this state, we must remember a detail. We often believe that to create an emotional state or to improve motivation, it is enough to "change" our thinking.Now, the so famous rule of "think well to live better "does not always work.
It does not work if we are not well. If there is a lack of serotonin in our brain or if our body is sick.William James once said that thought did not always precede action.When we talk about motivation, "action and feeling" always go hand in hand.
The brain,the mind and the body must be in total harmony to find this impulse. To gather this inner energy that would allow them to get better.Now let us think about the following dimensions, which can help us overcome laziness and apathy.
Keys to overcome demotivation and apathy
- We must first rule out any medical problem.
- Once hormonal factors or other organic problems have been removed,we must understand what is behind our mood.
- Then we will establish a transition period. During this time, we will only do one thing: solve problems. We will think of ways to face this dissatisfaction, this fear, this disappointment … We will establish a process of detachment from all that immobilizes us.
- Gradual changes.We will begin by introducing small changes in our routine. For example, we can change diets or set new schedules. A little later and once we get used to these small variations, it will be time to start bigger changes. Those who must bring us well-being and who adjust to our vital expectations.
- Direct our eyes towards concrete objectives.Towards things that we can do on a daily basis and that give us a sense of satisfaction.
- Challenge apathy. Once we have incorporated these new routines and conquered daily goals, we will have to learn to challenge this apathetic state.As soon as we notice this sensation, we must look for an alternative.For example, think of a new thing, a motivating thing that will make it disappear.
Overcoming laziness and apathy is not an easy task. But that's not impossible either.Nevertheless, we can not forget that these shadows are recidivists and often visit us.We must be ready when they do it. Ready to disable them, air our emotional rooms with a fresh wind and new projects.