Perhaps you have emigrated, or are you preparing to do so, in another country, for studies or work, for an extended or indefinite period. In these cases, it is common and common to cope with the migratory loss that takes place when one leaves behind one's home, one's family and one's friends.
Have you thought about what would happen if you moved away from today and indefinitely from your loved ones and your best friends? If tomorrow, you wake up in another country than yours, where customs and lifestyles are completely different? And, if you wanted to express how you would feel about so many changes, the language, accent, or vocabulary of others was different from yours? Here are just as many of the usual situations in which this type of disorder is generated.
The situation of mourning in the face of loss
When there is a loss situation, our brain begins to realize a series of emotional and cognitive adaptations. These adaptations are necessary to be able to get used to what will be our new reality.
This is called "mourning". For this, appear certain manifestations or symptoms of this process of adaptation, such as loss of appetite, some anxiety, or problems related to sleep. In turn, emerge emotions that we experience as negative, such as sadness or hatred.
In the case of migration loss, this malaise usually does not appear at the startwhen we have just left our country and we are still finalizing the administrative procedures and the papers. In other words, when our attention is still focused on what is urgent so that we can integrate in the best way possible.
Instead of that, once you've spent some time in a new country, we're really starting to focus on ourselves. This is the reason why migration loss is also called "6 month sore" (usually considered as the period of adaptation), although it can also be given other names
Since the fact of emigration supposes to accumulate several losses, we should really speak of multiple mourning loss of home, loved ones and relationships, work and identity, which is probably the biggest cause of ill-being. Moreover, emigration is often motivated by economic insecurity, situations of violence in the country of origin, wars, persecution, etc. These are reasons in themselves sufficiently aggravating the situation of malaise.
For all these reasons, if you plan to leave soon abroad, if you have just settled in what will be your host country or if you know someone who is in this situation, we give you in the continuation of this advice so that the adaptation is as positive and profitable as possible.
How to succeed to adapt positively
Do not idealize the host country or return to your home country
Faking false expectations about the host country can be a big disappointment afterwards. The best thing to do is to make no expectations, so that you can analyze more objectively what is good and bad in the country. On the other hand, it is also not recommended to idealize the return to your home country, thinking that everything will be better than before.
If I rely on my own experience, I lived in Norway for a year, and I realized that we were too idealistic in the Nordic countries. Of course, there are a lot of things that are good, and a lot of positive things happen when you live there, but there are problems which arise from all sides, and which may affect us to a greater or lesser extent.
Normalize the situation
Be aware that life is a process that is constantly changing. Emigration has existed since the origins of mankind, and now that you are forced, for one reason or another, to leave your country for another, that does not mean that in the future you will not You may not be able to go back home, or maybe move to a different country so you can get to know more cultures.
With these tips, it will be easier for you to control the stress levels generated by the move and the process of integration and adaptation to another country, so that migration loss does not have too much impact. strong.