Listening to others is a difficult task because we always have an opinion or something that interferes with what the other person wants to express and what we interpret. It is our prejudices, in general, that play tricks on us and make it difficult to understand each other's point of view.
However, there are ways to achieve this goal by taking small steps that will lead to great relationships.
To listen better and avoid unnecessary arguments, pay attention to each word spoken by the other and stay silent (even if what the other tells us hurts us).
Once finished, express your opinion in a clear way, without attacking and slowly. For that it is very important to take a few seconds to answer, because this time helps to clarify the ideas and to know how we want to express them.
Another way to listen well is to accompany the silence of the other because often the silences are more eloquent than the words and call us. In these cases, it is advisable not to speak and look intently into each other's eyes and as far as possible with a gentle and quiet look, expressing calm.
This last point is more complicated because when we are angry our body expresses it as well as our eyes, and consequently in a situation like this, it is better to take the time again, always in silence, to find calm.
When the situation exceeds us
But there are situations in which we are totally overwhelmed and we scream, so the other screams louder and we increase the volume, so the other one does the same thing, so everything gets out of control.
In these situations, it is better to go out, leave the stage and when reproaches come such as "you never listen to what I say," it is better to turn around, and take a few seconds to calm down.
There is always in our psychology the struggle for power and the desire to "defeat" the other, but in human relations it is not a question of winning or losing, but of complementing oneself.
Like this, we can create ideas together in all areas of life, but the most important, and what will benefit us, is to forge better relationships and get to know each other better.
By being always open to the other we can generate more confidence, more freedom and more responsibility, to be always present in the moment, that is to say in what is called the "here and now".
In conclusion, it is always good to pay attention to what the other person says, without getting lost and exercising the freedom to choose how we will connect, whether reactively or proactively.