The age of people is becoming less and less important in today's world.We have discovered that life does not necessarily fit the theoretical patterns we manage. Late adolescence, a reality that is more and more frequent, is proof of this.
Adolescence is that stage of life that serves as a bridge between childhood and adulthood.She is characterized by great emotional instability and an intense search for her own identity. Much of the ups and downs of this stage depend on the many physical changes that occur. Sexual maturation occurs and with it a particularly dynamic hormonal activity.
"Adolescence is society's license to combine physical maturity and psychological irresponsibility."
The concept of late adolescence has two connotations. One is the last years of adolescence,when all the changes have been made. And when the youngster is ready to enter his adult life. The other connotation is related to those stages of life that seem to revive adolescent traits. The first is a technical term and the second is a construction of popular psychology.
Late adolescence as a technical concept
Developmental psychologists divide adolescence into three stages. Early adolescence, which ranges from 11 to 13 years and corresponds to puberty. The average teenager, who goes from 13 to 16/17 years old. AndLate adolescence, which includes the stage between 15/17 years and 21 years.
Late adolescence is a step of greater stability. Identity is better established.Great idealism and an enormous capacity to enjoy the future prevail.Some crises sometimes occur because of the new adult responsibilities that must be assumed. The teenager does not always feel ready to face them.
Unlike earlier stages, during late adolescence, it is no longer as important to be part of a more or less stable group.Greater emphasis is placed on person-to-person relationships.The bond with the family becomes more peaceful. Major projects dominate, as does the desire to change the world.
The name of late adolescence is also given to those emotional states that show adolescent traits when one has already reached adulthood.In human beings, the stages do not always complete each other as indicated by the theoretical diagrams. Certain circumstances push them to prolong or infantile and adolescent aspects reappear, even at advanced ages.
This late adolescence manifests itself in many ways. The most typical is when the person continues to act as an "eternal rebel"full of dreams but without concrete goals. She resists, without really knowing why, to this adult life. It does not accept the world as it is but does not lead to concrete and thoughtful actions to change it.
In these cases, it is usual to see that teenage tension with parents is maintained.They are recriminated and accused of everything, but at the same time, we are unable to separate them emotionally. Cohabitation can also be maintained.
Myths around growth
Very often, a teenager's parents are the first to resist his growth.Beyond emotional attachment, there is a fear of aging or finding oneself alone. These parents are therefore responsible for prolonging economic, emotional and psychological dependence.
In general, modern society advances the myth that youth is the only stage worth living.It is not for nothing that a prolific cosmetic industry has been built. Half of the products sold are intended to "delay aging". The word "adult" scares a lot of people because it seems too serious and dull. It is synonymous with responsibility, which would be the opposite of youth.
All this is not negative in itself. But give up autonomy and responsibilitymaintaining a teenage attitude can be counterproductive. Late teens do not know what they are really capable of.
The only way to find out is to be responsible for yourself and overcome your fears. If we give up on that, some non-compliance will take hold of us. It will become chronic, without us realizing it, and will push us to deprive ourselves of great experiences.