During childhood, it does not matter if we are very young, we can feel the impact of a situation even if we do not understand it, feel pain, fear or feel confused. Age does not protect us from suffering.
When we grow up, our reasoning faculty gives us the ability to understand everything that happened during our childhood.
The wounds left cracks in our heart, and lacerated the memories in our minds.
Suffering from abuse, growing up without the presence of our father or mother, losing someone, or living in a destructured home, are realities that hurt our childhood, sometimes creating trauma in our souls that make us weary. armor of mistrust.
As a result, we are unable to open ourselves up to others to create lasting relationships. We dull our happiness with the echo of those days of our childhood during which we lacked sincere affection or personal security.
Projecting yourself in the future despite the past
A difficult past must not prevent us from trying to live fully in the present. Happiness does not require penitence, we must all learn to manage our lives to live it optimally, and with maturity.
Resilience is the essential virtue we all have to project ourselves into the future despite destabilizing conditions, trauma and hardship.
But how to achieve it? How to face the past? How to leave aside all these scars of our childhood that we are the only ones to see?
– Develop a healthy concept of yourself
You must not feel responsible for what has happened in the past. Try to find in you the strength to forgive and accept what has happened. It's not always easy, but it's a process that will help you let go.
It does not mean that you have to justify, but rather accept. You must consider yourself as capable of moving forward in life, believing you to be strong, and counting on your skills to cope with everyday life.
You have the right to be happy, and the fragility of your childhood is a motivation to become strong in adulthood.
– Strategies to solve problems
Your daily life will undoubtedly bring you situations in which your memories will resurface, and where insecurity will make you feel unable to cope with anything.
That is why it is essential that you learn how to solve the problems that are gnawing at you, to recognize your priorities, to set your goals, to cultivate your communication skills, assertion, etc.
– Reinforce your self-esteem
Learn to value yourself, to take into account your potential and your abilities, because you are capable of more than you think.
You must not compare yourself to others, or tell yourself that you are not able to do something. You must get up each day with enough confidence to deal with any difficulties that may arise.
If you have confidence in yourself, if you have defined your self-concept, your values and your goals, the insecurity will have no influence on you.
You were vulnerable in the past, but fragility can teach you a lot. You know what your limits are, and you must arm yourself for a safe step in life.
having a difficult childhood does not affect your entire life. It all depends on you, and keep in mind that you deserve to be happy.