I do not know how to live if I do not have you by my side

I do not know how to live if I do not have you by my side

It's an expression we all know, under a thousand different forms, in a thousand different situations, because we have all been passionately in love.
But when we analyze situations without feelings, we can not help thinking that it is the responsibility of the other person to make us happy, that he must devote his life to make ours more joyful.
Butis not, in any case, a healthy way of living and loving. We are so selfish when we are in love … And we must recognize it, also when we are not in love.
Think about people who have suffered break-ups in your life, or maybe you yourself.
Things seem to be complicated, slow and conflicting, and when the separation happens, we can almost say that both parties feel relieved …
But no, there is always one, or both, in which arises the toxic feeling of the need to hold the other by his side, because he loves him. Can not he get used to someone else? And the two commit themselves, sad and vain commitment, to fulfill the role of savior of the life of the other, of the totality of its existence, closing the doors allowing to go forward.
It is obvious that it is very painful to lose someone you love because he or she has left you, or because the relationship does not work. But when that happens, it's time to understand that it's necessary to move forward, that we can not engage in a love that no longer exists, in exhausting feelings that tire us even more …
An extraordinary and ingenuous lie … that has always existed. How is it to have someone by his side? Even though we feel very close to someone we love, even though we have built dreams and realities with that person, she has become someone else.
We can almost always say that in life we ​​have no one but ourselves. Feelings mutate, people change, remoteness arrives, we plan and change our projects, we rehearse the past and one day we stop …
We change every day! And when change comes to love, we must accept that in the same way that he is born, he can change one day …
We choose someone we love because we understand and understand them, we accept them and accept us as we are, but when these combinations do not work, the relationship is impossible unless we are very selfish.
When we choose the person, we choose her to live her life with us, to share projects and to live together. We do not choose this person for her to live for us, nor for her to take care of our happiness, but to mix her happiness with ours.
So, when it's no longer possible, there's no reverse, and you can live even if you do not have that person anymore. In any case, you will survive and one day you will find the colors of love … And you will continue to live whether or not you have this person by your side …
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