"If one of your desires does not satisfy you,
so it's one of your possessions that will do it "
Often, parents who have had a difficult childhood do everything so that their children do not get the same.
So they make the mistake of giving them too many gifts "so they do not miss anything", while the best thing to do is to make them aware of the value of material things, and that of our possessions compared to that of our desires.
Some parents walk past a shop window, enter the store, buy a beautiful toy, and bring it home full of illusions so that finally, their child does not give any importance to this gift.
He continues to do what he was doing as if nothing had happened, which often boils down to using his cell phone, tablet, or computer.
At first, it can disillusion parents, or even push them to be invaded by sadness, because they worked hard to be able to buy this toy, that finally their child did not know how to appreciate.
It is therefore up to parents, as adults, to teach them to be aware of the sacrifices involved, as well as to make them appreciate what they are offered.
This does not mean that children should work from a very young age, but ratherwe must show them that in life, "nothing falls from the sky except the rain"and that to get what they want, they will have to make an effort.
Such words may sound strong in the eyes of a child of the age of a schoolboy, but for all that, it will be of great service to him if one manages to make him interiorize these few principles.
Most of the time, parents do not realize that their children are unaware of the difficulty of earning money to buy these gifts, etc.
If you have a good financial situation, there is nothing worse than getting your kids used to getting everything they want. Indeed, under such conditions, they will never realize that life can sometimes be hard, and that the financial situation of today can be complicated tomorrow.
If things really do get complicated financially, how do you make children understand that you can not buy this toy, this video game, or this trendy mobile phone?
Teach children to appreciate what they have
So that our children are aware of the price of things from an early age and that they do not become machines to ask every day something new, it would be good:
– That they have a responsibility at home. From the age of three, the child can already take part in household chores and assume some type of responsibility, no matter how small.
Initially, we will not let him put away the glasses or wash the windows, but he can for example wear his own clothes in his room.
As time goes on, you can assign new tasks, adapted to the capabilities they have developed.
The best thing to do if you want to reinforce this type of behavior is not to offer your child material rewards, but rather words and social recognition, so that he or she can feel proud of himself.
– That you do not buy them everything they ask for. Children's television commercials are designed to generate desires at home.
In fact, toys are presented as fantastic machines for entertainment and amusement. Finally, if you want to make a gift to your child that fits one of his desires, it is better that you wait a little.
Take your time to "answer the request"; so you'll know if your child really wants itor if it is a simple whim to buy a toy.
Do not try to show your love to your child by buying things from him; but act like any other parent would, with time and affection.
Set a budget. When children are already a little taller, and therefore able to have the notion of money, let them help you manage the money from home.
In addition, if you can (and if they deserve it), give them a periodic paycheck, so they get used to managing their own resources … not being inexhaustible.
Finally, do not make the mistake of saying "my children never miss anything"because money and gifts do not make happiness.
Remember one thing: "Where there is too much is that something is missing, what is too much can not replace what is missing".