How to stop being an obsessive person

How to stop being an obsessive person

We all know people who think too much, to the point that they can have problems in their daily lives because of that. These are people who thinkbeautifulblow on the same subject.They experience anxiety, extreme concern and stress. We will talk about obsessive people when this happens regularly.

We will see in today's article what are the causes that lead a person into these types of vicious circles, as well as some of the latest theories on the subject.

Why obsessions happen?

Cognitive theories of anxiety disorders consider that information processing deficits are one of the most important factors in the origin and maintenance of this type of disorder (Beck, Emery and Greenberg, 1985). TheInterest in the cognitive aspects of people with obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) is however recent.There are currently very few studies on the treatment of the emotional information of the obsessive person.

Recent research has shown that obsessive people have deficits in tasks designed to measure cognitive distortions and biases (Steketee, Frost, Rhéaume and Wilhelm, 2001). Studies conducted on the treatment of emotionally relevant information indicate thatthe obsessive person might be more sensitive to the stimuli that are related to his fears.

The obsessive person enters a vicious circle when his emotional reactions, provoked by his thoughts on his fears,are similar to those that occur in the face of real stimuli.Obsessions are defined as recurrent, persistent thoughts, impulses or images that are experienced at one time as intrusive and inappropriate, and that cause significant anxiety or discomfort.

Thoughts, impulses or images are not reduced to mere excessive concerns about real-life problems. They go much further. The persontry to ignore or suppress these thoughts, impulses or images, or try to neutralize them with other thoughts or actions.

The purpose of these acts or behaviors is the prevention or reduction of the malaise of an event or a negative situation.These behaviors or mental operations are not connected in a realistic way to what they claim to neutralize or prevent, or are manifestly excessive.

"Passion is a positive obsession, obsession is a negative passion."

Obsessions, anxiety of the 21st century

In the last editions, theAmerican Psychological Association (APA) included the Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.This is due to its debilitating properties, as well as its high incidence in the population lately.

People suffering from this disease feel trapped by it, repeating for hours, in the most extreme cases, a specific action without any control over their actions. Ces people are also more prone to depression and other psychological disorders (such as hypochondria or phobias). This is a direct consequence of the anxiety produced by OCD.

According to experts,TOCs can be classified into several categories. The most important are:
  • Cleaning or obsession with hygiene
  • Verification,insecurity and constant verification of domestic situations
  • Order,search for symmetry and precision

There are, however, many other types of obsessions. Some are typical of modern society, including addiction to social networks.Their rise has transformed them into another form of obsession as the same parameters and constraints are repeated as in traditional obsessions.

The same patterns of thought, ideas and behavior are repeated in the obsessions of the sentimental life. The peculiarity here that we seek to control another person instead of an object.The uncontrollable desire to be with someone sometimes becomes such an obsession that we end up confusing it with love.

This type of obsession forces us to act compulsively to get what we want, that is, to be with the person.These obsessive behaviors paradoxically end up permanently driving away the loved one.

"An obsession implies that love becomes insatiable in the relationship A member of the couple is never satisfied with their relationship, he can not do anything without his partner and shows great dependence."
-Walter Riso-

Treatments to stop being an obsessive person

Treatment to eliminate obsessions is based on changing erroneous beliefs that the obsessive person has on the intrusions of his fears. We try to reduce the anxiety generated by thoughts.

This type of treatment tends also to eradicate the obsessions involved in maintaining beliefs of responsibility (Salkovskis, Richards and Forrester, 2000). The central idea of ​​cognitive-behavioral treatment is that emotional and behavioral responses are nuanced and strongly influenced by cognitions and perceptions.

The main goal of this behavioral approach is toencourage the obsessive person to develop specific patterns of behavior that lead to changes in the way the patient sees himself and sees the outside world. The focus should therefore be on changing mental processes and thoughts as well as on the habitual way of behaving the person.

"Obsessive thoughts are the wood that fires the fire of anger, a fire that can only be extinguished by contemplating things from a different point of view."
-Daniel Goleman-


Beck, AT, Emery, G. and Greenberg, RL (1985). Anxiety and phobic disorders: a cognitive approach.Basic, New York.

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Salkovskis, PM, Wroe, AL, Gledhill, A., Morrison, N., Forrester, E., Richards, C., and Thorpe, S. (2000). Attitudes of responsibility and interpretations are characteristic of obsessive-compulsive disorder.Behavioral research and therapy,  38  (4), 347-372.

Steketee, G., Frost, RO, Rheaume, J. and Wilhelm, S. (2001). Theory and practice of cognitive therapy of obsessive-compulsive disorder. Theobsessive disorders.

Vallejo Pareja, Mr. Á. (2001). Effective psychological treatments for obsessive-compulsive disorder.Psicothème ,  13 (3).

The heartbreaking love poem of a man suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)

Learn more about obsessive-compulsive disorder through this Neil Hilborn poem and his relationship experience. Learn more
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