What can we deal with these situations?
To explain the ideal way to deal with these situations, we must remember the dialogue of Socrates, called "The triple filter" :
"An acquaintance approaches Socrates, and wants to tell him something about one of his friends, but before listening to him, Socrates gives him a little examination, that of the triple filter." Socrates decides to formulate questions to Socrates. this person on what she wants to tell him about his friend, thanks to the help of 3 filters: the filter of truth, the filter of goodness and the filter of utility.
To do this, he asks him three separate questions in relation to each of the filters :
– Are you sure that what you are going to tell me is true? (filter of truth)
– Do you want to tell me something good about my disciple? (filter of goodness)
– Will what you tell me be useful? (utility filter).
After the acquaintance admitted that she was not certain of the truth of her words, that they were neither good nor useful, Socrates concluded: "What is the good of telling it? ".
In summary, applying this filter is a very useful strategy to avoid spreading rumors, gossip or criticism. And this, not only to those who report to us, but also to ourselves when we are going to say something about someone else.
Apply it now!"Habit is the most demanding master" (Pliny the Younger)
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