"I have committed the worst sin a man can commit, I have not been happy, the glaciers of oblivion drag me and lose me, merciless". So begins the poem The regret, written by Jorge Luis Borges.
In these first lines, one feels the gravity, the melancholy that takes hold of the one who has acted badly.
In these verses, the poet blames himself for letting happiness escape. In our daily actions, we also face similar feelings, which generate us with weight and despair.
There are other types of remorse, lesser concerns, which simply remind us that we did not act according to our principles. If we are on a diet and eating a candy, we feel guilt because we know we have ingested calories that our body does not need.
Remorse is a feeling often associated with a second, repentance. We all make mistakes and we often get angry about them, but there are occasions when mistakes are transformed into emotional weight that can negatively impact our personal well-being or our relationships with those around us..
There are authors, like Wayne Dyer, who describe guilt as a useless emotion. Dyer defends this position based on the idea that "guilt means we are stuck in the present because of our past behavior".
To avoid this, he offers a lesson to learn from our past mistakes, so as not to get stuck, but rather to find a solution to this situation of bad being.
Ask for forgiveness or wash your hands
Success in reversing these negative thoughts will depend on several circumstances. All actions do not have the same consequences, because some do more harm than others, but it is always possible to ask forgiveness and relieve some of this evil.
It is important to take responsibility for what we do, because it will always be more benign to accept our mistake than to blame others for getting rid of our responsibilities..
However, there are people who can wash their conscience with a jet of water and soap. We all remember the scene of Pilate, who, after making the decision of the killing, advances to a basin to wash his hands.
According to an experiment conducted by a group of researchers at the University of Michigan in the United States, doing this can help eliminate remorse.
It seems that, as this study shows, water and soap help to reduce the harm that we self-generate by acting against our values.