Talking about sex continues to be a taboo subject. Many things are suggested but little is said outside the scientific context. For itMany doubts usually arise about how to maintain a pleasant and satisfying relationship. These issues affect many aspects of sexuality and today we will focus on one aspect in particular: thefemale orgasm.
We refer to a feeling of pleasure for the woman on whom many beliefs and preconceptions are circulating. Which ones refer to the truth and which are just simple myths? We will try to get closer to reality and put aside what is just not certain.
- 1 There is not a single type of female orgasm
- 2 Myths of female orgasm
- 3 If a woman fails to reach orgasm, it's because she does not benefit
- 4 Masturbation decreases the number of orgasms
- 5 If the woman does not have an orgasm, she is sexually incompetent, disqualified, or inactive
- 6 Truths about female orgasm
- 7 Women can have them multiple
- 8 It makes you lose consciousness
- 9 Synchronized orgasms exist
- 10 We can have an orgasm without penetration
- 11 Why can not I reach orgasm?
There is not a single type of female orgasm
In the first place, Many authors distinguish two types of female orgasm: vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm. The first is more common and is obtained through stimulation of the vagina during penetration, without direct stimulation of the clitoris.
For its part, clitoral orgasm can potentially be more intense because of the large amount of nerve endings around it. In addition, women experience it differently: like a heat wave that spreads throughout the body and generates muscle spasms. Below, we will refer to orgasm in general, without distinction between the two types.
Myths of female orgasm
Currently, there continues to be many statements referring to the feeling of female ecstasy that is felt by some. These are erroneous considerations that, in addition to misleading us, can prevent us from making the most of our sexual relations.
If a woman fails to reach orgasm, it's because she does not benefit
Although this may be the case, this is not necessarily the reason. It is possible that the experience was not very pleasant for the woman and for that she did not reach the culminating point. But he is also possible that the sexual relation was really good and that this climax was not reached. Reducing a sexual act to "orgasm" or "no orgasm" is something really banal.
This statement is false and the result of a terminological confusion. Currently, the mistaken belief that orgasm and sexual satisfaction are the same thing or are related reigns in our society. But this is not the case. These are two independent aspects, in such a way that one can occur without the other.
Masturbation decreases the number of orgasms
It's exactly the opposite. Self-exploration is a way to gain experience and get to know each other better. Women who masturbate know what they like most and what helps them to experience pleasure. In this way, they are better able to guide their partner and achieve a satisfying sexual relationship.
In fact, Kegel exercises are usually used to improve sexual stimulation. Although they are better known because they serve as a birthing preparation for pregnant women or as a treatment for urinary incontinence, they are very useful for sexual well-being. They are a series of exercise of contraction of the pelvic and vaginal muscles whose purpose is to tone them up.
If the woman does not have an orgasm, she is sexually incompetent, disqualified, or inactive
In addition to being misogynist, this statement is completely false. We have already seen that sexual satisfaction does not go hand in hand with reaching the climax. In fact, none of the members of the couple must necessarily reach it. Generate the obligation to experiment is inappropriate and even harmfulbecause this can cause the opposite effect: block the pleasure.
Nevertheless, if the sexual relations are painful or that the orgasm is never reached, the woman (and the man) should have recourse to a specialist in order to be sure that she does not have any sexual problem for example anorgasmia. Let's not forget thata sexual relationship is much more than reaching that moment of "maximum pleasure". Many psychological, physiological, motivational, cultural … factors come into play. Also, a woman does not have to feel this orgasm to feel fulfilled. This will depend on each particular case.
Truths about female orgasm
After highlighting the false beliefs circulating on the subject, we will evoke the truths of this sensation of feminine ecstasy.
Women can have them multiple
In comparison to men who need a recovery time after orgasm (the refractory period), women do not need to rest between one orgasm and another. Both vaginal orgasm and clitoral orgasm can be experienced in multiple, uninterrupted and even simultaneous ways.
It makes you lose consciousness
Orgasm is one of the moments of greater ecstasy for a woman. In fact, it is so powerful that it can make you lose consciousness. This is a phenomenon called little death, also known as sweet death. He frefers to the refractory period that women experience after orgasm in the form of fainting or loss of consciousness.
The specialists maintain theidea that this is due to especially strong respiratory changes that contract the aorta. This pressure on the main artery of the body causes hyperventilation, an excess of oxygen in the blood. There is also mild ischemia, a small lack of blood circulation in the brain that causes loss of consciousness.
Synchronized orgasms exist
Although this is very unlikely, it is possible that both members of the couple have an orgasm at the same time. This is one of the fantasies that are most reflected in the movies, representing almost a classic ideal. But do not be obsessed by this goal because reaching them simultaneously does not mean better.
Moreover, it is possible to learn how to synchronize them using different techniques. For example, the other can stimulate the clitoris during sexual intercourse. Also,mutual knowledge is essential.
We can have an orgasm without penetration
The clitoris can be stimulated in very different ways (fingers, mouth …), so the female orgasm can be achieved without the need for penetration. A sexual relationship is much more: it's enjoying every moment, touching and caressing. Thus, orgasm can be achieved in different ways. For this, a sexual relationship can turn into a magical moment in which both partners are satisfied without the need to reach the female climax.
As we have seen, there are many misconceptions and misconceptions about female orgasm. But there are also many truths that must be passed on as early as adolescence. The effort of sex education is for that, fundamental.