Sometimes, you are surprised to lose the pedals in the middle of a moment of trouble. In this kind of situation, we are aware of having disproportionate reactions, and then we regret our behavior and we wonder how, in the space of a few seconds, we have been able to act so irrationally. But what happens to us in these moments?
When things escape us and we feel completely overwhelmed by events, we are victims of a multitude of psychological and physiological reactions, all of which are part of the process.emotional diversion.
To help you better understand this process, we will explain how the human brain works.
How does the process of emotional hijacking occur?
We know that we are subject to emotional diversion as soon as you catch yourself react so automatic to stimuli treated by the emotional brain.
Of course we do not have two brains, but many studies have shown that our brains are more emotional part (the limbic system) and a part more rational, or thinking (the neocortex).
In case of emotional diversion, the emotional or limbic brain is the first to react. However, his answers are usually more inaccurate because they have not been subjected to rational brain analysis.
But, what is the part of the brain that examines the environment around us? It istonsil, an almond shaped mass located in the limbic system. She is in charge of treatment and storage of emotional reactions.
In this way, when the amygdala inspects the environment in which one finds oneself and begins to ask questions such as "Will this thing hurt me?", "Can it make me suffer?" "Have I always been afraid of it?" she try to answer them.
If the answers are affirmative, our nervous system gives the alarm signal to our organization, which then relegates its less essential functions to the background to focus solely on those that help to counter the threat.
The hormones necessary for flight or combat are then secreted, the pulse is accelerated, the field of vision decreases, and the circulation of blood is lost, as well as the capacity of reflection that could allow us to concentrate on the danger.
The neocortex or thinking brain is then inhibited, and for a few moments, it acts only on instinct. The amygdala declares war on the neocortex, and we are then just animals fighting for their emotional survival, the latter being just as important to us as our physical survival.
Why does emotional diversion occur?
One of the main reasons is an evolutionary one, related to the question ofsurvival. Our ancestors were also subject to emotional diversion, for example when they were facing the enemy or animals, they could flee or attack in order to no longer feel in danger.
But today, this process provokes in us reactions that we would prefer to avoid; in human relationships, emotions are much faster, inaccurate and rude.
Our emotional brain predisposes us to deliver automatic responses that, while once vitalare not always welcome today, for example in the event of a quarrel over a crisis of jealousy, or more widely in the event of disputes with friends or family members.
In case of emotional diversion, all our attention is then devoted to one thing only: to deal with emotion. This prevents us from analyzing and rationally explaining the situation in which we find ourselves, and it is probably for this reason that our reactions are not those that we expected, and that we are unable to to analyze what happened before we found our calm.
How to control emotional diversion?
Maybe the key is to know that emotional diversion is always preceded by a emotional overflow. By detecting this emotional outpouring in time and analyzing it a posteriori, it is possible to prevent the amygdala from inhibiting our rational brain, and therefore our relationships with others to suffer.
For that, it is important to determine the symptoms that a person presents in a moment of trouble, or in other words when things do not happen as she had hoped, or as she had imagined.Sweating, hot flashes, rapid heartbeat, all of these may be potential symptoms of emotional diversion.
Once identified symptomswe must name them, because it is by proceeding in this way that we can engender the process of rationalization and avoid that of the automatic and spontaneous answer.
Then you have to find a way to escape his emotions, which allows to calm down and regain his calm.
Finally, it is important totry to analyze the things that have caused us emotional distraction, so we can better manage this kind of situation in the future.
"Things do not change, we change" (Henry David Thoreau)