One day someone gave me some advice that I have never been able to forget: do not run behind someone who knows where you are, even for a moral requirement.
When I asked him why I had to be so radical in my way of acting, I was told that it served a lot to open your eyes to many moments in your life.
First, I was told "do not run behind anyone, not even behind yourself, because no one needs anyone behind him. We all need someone next to us ".
Then, I was told: "If this person does not bring you anything, let them go because if it still has something to offer you, you do not need to beg."
"The secret is not to run behind the butterfly, but to take care of the garden so that it comes to us".
Do not run behind anyone, not even behind yourself
In the rest of this article, we will talk about what happens when we look for someone who is not ourselves, without finding an answer. But what happens when we run behind ourselves?
Often, we feel better when we run away from everything that happens, or when we let things escape in our surroundings.
When we run behind something that does not exist, we run behind ourselves and it's not good. It is necessary to always look forward, pursuing what we want to find in our future.
We often do not dare to stop because it scares us to look at the void and reflect on it. However, we will never find emptiness if we accept that we must love each other above all else.
To truly love ourselves, we have the obligation to go beyond ourselves every day.
If they need you behind, they do not really need you
In life, there are groups of people we want them to stay close to us, even if they do not like it. It's not easy, for example, to get out of someone's life after sharing so much.
However, it is beneficial to remember that keeping a relationship alive requires interest. If there is no interest, there is no relationship because what keeps the union is the desire to know each other, with all that implies.
"The slow dwindling of your interest in me, the gradual disappearance of" happy days ", the selfish choice of your distance determined that we did not need to go to Macondo. It was enough for me to kiss you to feel … A hundred years of loneliness "-Gabriel Garcia Marquez-
We can not feel bad when we break with the only thing left of a relationship that is over. Something that does not exist anymore and that will never exist you miss you, that's all.
Understanding this, emphasizing yourself and preventing yourself from being underestimated is the first big step you can take to move forward.
Look from the inside: you know where you want to go
That's exactly it. You do not want to be where you expect this person to turn around and look at you.
Do an introspection and think about it: are you sure you do not want to respect your own pace?
"Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers."-Jorge Luís Borges-
Growing up means learning to mark your own direction and the speed of your life. You are the only person who knows how to cultivate what she has, and how to give love, knowing that the one who loses the most is the one who does not know how to receive.
Share what you have in you with those who really want you to do it. This is the best way to live with tenderness.