Counseling or counseling is a growing profession that is attracting more and more followers as it allows people to solve their daily problems themselves.without advice or guidance, focusing only on the present without appealing to memories or going back into the past, simply by helping the person tell their story and listen to themselves more.
In this way, and with their own means, people find in them the solutions to solve the problems that torment them, they learn to discover and to know themselves more, they thus manage to better accept and adapt to the environment around them.
The secret of this form of accompaniment lies in the three key attitudes of any good companion: empathy, unconditional positive acceptance and congruence, which are part of the theory developed by American human psychologist Carl Rogers called "Person centered approach".
This approach owes its name to the very principle that each person is best placed to know themselves and identify their expectations and needs, even in times of crisis.
Mechanisms used by a psychological carer
The method used by a psychological accompanist is to put oneself in the person's place to help him discover what he feels (empathy) without judging his vision of the world or his values (unconditional positive acceptance), accompanying him remains sincere with himself and with the person he accompanies (congruence).
The association of these attitudes creates in the person accompanied a faculty of introspection that allows him to understand what is happening and to find in it the necessary means to solve the problem that makes it suffer.
At the same time, the person discovers himself little by little and learns to accept himself thanks to the method of acceptance brought by the accompanying person. In this way, the person changes and breaks up little by little the schemas of which she was trapped until now to free herself from a grip and become more authentic.
This type of process also has the advantage of intervening in the short termand the person goes out of this process having acquired sufficient knowledge to face all situations of life in a more responsible manner. Thus, the person no longer positions himself as the "victim" of the event but rather, as we said before, by integrating his problems, in order to find the solution himself.
Just as the person manages his own process of accompaniment, the decision to end it is his own and not the professional.
However, the journey is not a long calm river, since any process of personal change involves going through a painful moment. Before the person can take a new look at herself, the first steps are painful when she realizes that things are not what they were.
Indeed, as she opens her eyes and reviews her judgment, she realizes that the change is positive and the suffering of the beginnings disappears to leave room for joy.
During this type of process, the person is like a caterpillar coming out of his chrysalis to become a butterfly and fly away. The process does not go on without suffering, but once out of her cocoon she finds her wings to steal flowers in bloom.
What is the difference between a psychological carer and a psychologist or psychiatrist?
Afterwards, the role of the caregiver is to guide the person on the path of change and personal development. This support will be done without directional interventions, that is to say, without giving instructions to the person but by helping him to simply identify the inner areas that will have to be deepened to discover little by little, and take the good decisions by its own means.
Finally, it should be noted that thepsychological support can only help people with normal mental health, that is, withoutpathologies neither disorders, because these cases are reserved for psychologists and psychiatrists.