Overcoming the temptation to judge others is a very positive habit when one has to establish healthy and constructive personal and professional relationships. For this, we present here reasons that may, if it is not already the case, motivate you not to judge others.
Sometimes, the temptation to judge others without knowing much – and thinking of knowing enough – can be very great. However, it is better not to forget that the feeling felt when we are on the other side is unpleasant.
How many times have we had the feeling that others offered themselves "the luxury" of talking about us without being aware of it? How many times have we slipped on this toboggan where what we had announced happened (self-fulfilling prophecy)?
- 1 Strategies for not being tempted to judge others
- 2 1. Think before you speak
- 3 2. Practice mindfulness
- 4 3. Remember, no one is perfect
- 5 4. Remember that everyone is unique
- 6 5. Do you personally look
- 7 6. Agree with yourself
- 8 7. Have a more open mind
- 9 8. Be aware that appearances are misleading
- 10 The big trap of judging others
Strategies for not being tempted to judge others
In order not to judge others, we can follow 8 strategies:
1. Think before you speak
To lead us by what others tell us or by what our intuition tells us can provoke a very important temptation. We therefore suggest simply not filling the silences when we do not have the inspiration to share something important.
Do not become rumor spokespersonsor storytellers; because it will discard the information that can be a questionable minimum. The immediate consequence of this is to stop judging others and to push them to adopt the same cautious attitude.
2. Practice mindfulness
Mindfulness is an activity that is based on certain techniques extracted from Buddhism. In factit is a philosophy based on the fact that freedom increases when the amount of judgments decreases, the judgments we give to others as well as ourselves. This type of attitude can help us stop judging others.
3. Remember, no one is perfect
In order not to judge others, it is important to have a high degree of tolerance. Others are making mistakes but they are not the only ones, we too are committing them. How far do we have the right to judge others, to put ourselves in a position of superiority? Often we forget the facts and we become opinion judges.
4. Remember that everyone is unique
Everyone thinks and acts differently. Each person is different and for that, each person deserves respect. Aspects such as culture, family and friends or education received influence our history and therefore our way of thinking and behaving.
5. Do you personally look
Instead of wasting time judging others, we can give our time to our own observation. So, we will perform an introspection to know our own faults so as to think with more depth. This can help us know why we think as we think and why we criticize other people's points of view.
6. Agree with yourself
Our tolerance for variability is much greater when we are in a positive moral state. Thus, sadness for example imposes a filter of pessimism and severity to our eyes. Anger, for its part, reinforces the temptation to make judgments, with few arguments.
7. Have a more open mind
Being an open-minded and tolerant person will say a lot about us. In addition to show a positive attitude towards others, it will greatly facilitate our communication. In addition to that, we will get to know each other better, which can be very interesting. We will be able to learn from their way of being and thinking.
8. Be aware that appearances are misleading
Appearances are very deceptive. On the other hand, the complexity of the human being, our complexity, is very great. In this way, behind our behaviors exist various motives, behind our actions (from an external point of view) there are different possible interpretations. An exercise in caution will allow us to recognize the role played by certain effects, such as the halo effect in relation to the first impression that a person makes us.
Our spirit lives in this dynamic. He needs them to make patterns about what's around us and to understand how to perceive the behavior of others. We talk about the dynamics of judgment of others. It is an automatism that often, far from helping, hurts, ruins people and relationships. In many cases, therefore, care must be exercised and taken with extreme caution.