Some people are used to thinking too much about everything. This is commonly called taking the head. It is a permanent rumination of thoughts, which prevents us from acting and fills us with anxiety. In other words, we think too much, we do too little, we feel bad because of it and we can not avoid it.
This happens when we are full of insecurity or when we let ourselves be assailed by fear. To take the head means that we have doubts and that, in itself, is not bad. What is very negative is to make doubt and inaction a way of life.
"There is nothing good or bad, it is the human thought that makes it look."
Nobody can reach effective conclusions by taking the lead. At best, we manage to fill ourselves with anxiety and fear more and more action. We can not achieve, in this way, what we all seek: a precise, perfect and risk-free result. That's why it's not worth it. Here are some tips to avoid it.
- 1 1. Set deadlines for decision-making
- 2 2. Do not put off things that need to be done today
- 3 3. Give things a temporal perspective
- 4 4. Stop in time
- 5 5. Do not feed your most vague fears
- 6 6. Agree not to control everything
- 7 7. Sleep well, sleep well, sleep well
- 8 5 emotional control techniques to better live
1. Set deadlines for decision-making
If we give ourselves all the time in the world to make a decision and we are one of those people who have a tendency to take the lead, we will probably never do anything. We certainly have a hard time giving up some things to gain others. And that's unfortunately what every decision implies.
The best way to avoid this is to set a deadline to solve what we have in hand. It is advisable not to take too much time, even if the decision is complex. At most one day, although most decisions should not take more than an hour.
2. Do not put off things that need to be done today
When you postpone what you have to do, you just have to start playing with the situation. If it is already clear that you must do something, there is no reason to wait any longer. Do it, even if there are obstacles or if you have to overcome resistance.
The problem is that waiting things only increase our level of mind. You must design a plan of attack before executing it as quickly as possible. This attitude makes you waste valuable time that you could spend on something much more productive.
3. Give things a temporal perspective
Sometimes we think too much about things that do not deserve it. Small situations or decisions that are not of major importance. As we are used to thinking too much about everything, we end up making small things more important than they really are.
A good technique is to analyze the importance of what takes you so much in a week, a month or a year. What will be its consequences on your life? If it's not something that affects the medium and long term, it's not worth thinking about it.
4. Stop in time
There are circumstances that do not favor lucid thinking. For example, when we are tiredwe are getting slower to reason and we tend to be more irritable. As a result, we easily fall into negative thought sequences.
The same thing happens when we have not eaten, we are exalted, sad or in a bad mood. In these cases, the good thing to do is not to be thought of. Just say "not now". Wait for a better time to do it.
5. Do not feed your most vague fears
It's not hard to feel fear. Different fears lie in wait for us, because we live in a half-paranoid society and because Uncertainty is a constant in life, even if we take all kinds of measures to avoid it.
When we experience this kind of latent fear, it is very important to specify what it is. What are we afraid of exactly? Most likely, this reasoning will lead us to see that there is really no reason to feel this.
6. Agree not to control everything
We must admit that there is nothing in life that involves no risk. When someone constantly hesitates and starts to take the lead for everything, it is surely because he wants, basically, to have control over the uncontrollable.
In one way or another, each of our actions is a small leap into the darkness. If we seek to eliminate the risk, we will only manage to enter a neurotic cycle of inaction. Even inaction contemplates the risks. So it's better to let go and let things happen, no matter how they happen.
7. Sleep well, sleep well, sleep well
Much of our psychic life works well through sleep. Sleeping well provides us with a fundamental foundation for maintaining good physical and mental health. Lack of sleep has serious consequences. Among them, make our thinking confused and wander a lot.
That's why the motto should always be to sleep well. Sleep is one of those activities (because it's an activity) that you have to jealously guard. Do not let anything or anyone tamper with your sleep, especially not a headache.
All these keys are small remedies that, if you convert them into habits, will be able to be of an invaluable help to you.. To take the head does not lead to anything. This is one of those habits that we are developing that is only detrimental to our development. Get rid of it to lead a healthier life.