US politician and former President Franklin D. Roosevelt once said that "men are not prisoners of fate, they are prisoners of their own minds". A very real thing, especially if you have already felt thatyour mind did not leave you alone.
To explain this phenomenon, we will follow the postulates of the psychologist Maite Finch.Because it is true that in states of anxiety or stress, the neurochemistry of the brain changes.
In concrete cases, the cerebral tonsils send adequate orders to the mind-emotions system. But what if this state of anxiety or stress activates when there is no reason to be alert?
Sometimes our interpretations of reality and the way we live it can activate similar patterns of brain neurochemistry. So, these patterns of thought can lead usto live in a constant state of malaise and anxiety.
Reasons why your mind does not leave you in peace
Maite Finch considers that there isa series of reasons why your mind does not leave you alone.Let's see how they articulate.
Avoid polarized thoughts: white or black
Sometimes something seems beautiful, brilliant and spectacular. At other times, on the other hand, everything seems horrible, obscure and excessively negative. That's what the fact of think in black and white, to believe in extremes,without a middle ground, without intermediate gray scales.
If you think in black and white, according to Finch,you have only two patterns of thought. Either everything is good or everything is bad. In other words, when your expectations are met, everything will be absolutely great. But when it does not, everything will be terrible and you will have that echo voice that will not leave you alone.
Forget the emotional reasoning
This is another reason why your mind does not let you breathe. It's about emotional reasoning. This case implies thatdecision making is not conditioned by logic or intuition but by the way you feel.
Thus, emotions – without management or control – will have a greater weight on the scale. If you feel bad, you will judge people and situations in a negative way. And these situations, given your attitude and disposition, will tend to confirm your assumptions. A kind of vicious circle.
"The spirit is like a parachute, it does not work if it's not open."
Avoid the vision of a tunnel
Finch considers that we see a tunnelwhen the pattern of thought is made according to our most complicated experiences.You associate your relationships and everything that happens to you at a particular moment, a moment of difficulty.
So,your mind is on constant alertto recognize people and negative situations. It is intended for the majority of its efforts to protect you from possible threats. Your attention focuses solely on the detection of danger, malaise and stressful situations.
To put it another way, your mind constantly looks for bad situations or circumstances. This level of surveillance and warning is so marked thatbias perception, thoughts and any other kind of attitude that is not in tune.
Have too positive thoughts
Optimism turns against us when it begins to take the form of an opaque band over our eyes in the face of our problems.It also does this when it completely eliminates the prudence of our way of acting or when this optimism is based solely on a thought of luck.
Moreover, an illusory or exaggerated optimism can, thinking that everything will be fine,to prevent us from creating a plan B in case something goes wrong.Just as it can prevent us from adapting when the results we get are not what we expected.
We may also customize everything all the time. This means thatwhen something bad happens around us, it's our fault.If we are so, we will live in a constant state of anxiety because the negative events are constantly happening in the world.
According to Finch, we must bear in mind thateverything does not depend on us.It is necessary to share responsibilities. Moreover, if we are constantly martyred because of our mistakes, we will project great anxiety about the future.
"The world needs open minds and hearts and these can not come from rigid systems, old or new."