We are not aware of work with deeply rooted fatalistic beliefs. These infiltrate, without us knowing how or when, and remain in place for years. To see reality as we see it seems normal to us. We rarely question those ideas that ultimately do not seem to have any foundation.
The main problem is that fatalistic beliefs almost always limit our horizons.These are false ideas, well camouflaged in the midst of truthful facts, which are there to deceive us while they dictate false conclusions about reality. The worst is that they neutralize our desire for change to live in another way.
It is true thatmany false beliefs eventually settle, one by one, in the collective unconscious.On the other hand, cultural sectors support them because, one way or another, they help to explain (but in a wrong way) some of the difficulties of life. Here are the 5 most common fatalistic beliefs.
"Do not give in to fatalism, it will lead you to inertia and laziness, recognize the Great Powers of Thought, make efforts, seek a great destiny through righteous thoughts."
- 1 1. I must make feel guilty and punish whoever hurts me
- 2 2. The misfortunes come from external causes and I can not do anything about it
- 3 3. It's easier to avoid problems than to confront them
- 4 4. People do not behave as they should
- 5 5. Things do not go the way I want and it's horrible
- 6 7 beliefs that limit personal growth
1. I must make feel guilty and punish whoever hurts me
Here is one of the fatalistic beliefs that push us to infantilize relationships.It starts from the idea that in many situations we are passive objects of the actions of others. Thus, the victim role can become much more attractive than the role of leader.
Many conflicts end up with a rise in violence or harm between all those involved, although the degree of responsibility may be different. In addition, it is common for one (or all) of the people involved to be more concerned with "defeating" or being a "victim" than for solving the problem itself.
2. The misfortunes come from external causes and I can not do anything about it
This is one of the most common fatalistic beliefs.It consists in supposing that the negative experiences come from invisible forceswhich escape our comprehension, our control and which make a kind of fixation on us. In other words, this force would reduce our responsibility and make us victims … of chance or fate. If we can not control what happens to us, why make efforts?
Again, with this belief, we assume that there are no subjects but only objects. The person renounces responsibility for his actionsand the freedom to direct one's life. It explains what happens to it through the action of external forces. In doing so, she does not have to examine her own mistakes.
3. It's easier to avoid problems than to confront them
Many social messages invite you to "not complicate your life", to "not get into the problems of others", to leave things as they are, as if nothing happened. This is very often transformed into a call to passivity, to conformism.
The worst of all is that, more often than not, dealing with problems only complicates them.A good confrontation in time can avoid a chain of permanent damage. Diving your head in the sand can be very expensive. You will temporarily stop seeing the problem but, in the long run, the consequences of this attitude may be harmful.
4. People do not behave as they should
Some choose to explain all the ills of the world (and theirs) as a logical consequence of the actions of others.They do not act as they should and that is why things go wrong in the family, at work, on the planet. This fatalistic belief brings nothing at all and totally distorts the interpretation of reality.
Once again, people who follow this belief are fleeing their responsibility. It is true that others sometimes act in a bad way. But their mistakes or their malicious acts do not explain our own ills or those of others.
5. Things do not go the way I want and it's horrible
Fatalistic beliefs usually nest in egocentric hearts.It is precisely egocentrism that prevents us from challenging beliefs.It prevents us from telling us that we are mistaken perhaps. It is not uncommon to see people who feel frustrated because things are not going the way they want.
They assume that there is only one way of seeing things. Theirs, of course.When reality thwarts their wishes, they can not go beyond that and expand their horizons. On the contrary, they decide to disown it.By doing this, they are not moving forward. And will never move.
All these fatalistic beliefs areextremely harmful because they help to create the idea that our free action does not determine our life.Rather, they seek to hide that freedom and autonomy that we are all able to conquer through our responsibility.